Of course, future parents in soul cherish the dream connected with a floor them yet not been born child: the father represents how will play with the son in soccer and hockey, and mother – as will go with the daughter on shops to choose elegant dresses. And can and vice versa: the father wants him to have a beautiful and clever daughter honors pupil, and mother – that she gave birth to the strong and courageous son, the defender and the supporter of family. But here the child is born, and just it is necessary to reconcile to his floor. Reject the dreams and do not cripple the child, imposing him the behavior unusual for its floor.
The boy was born? It is wonderful! The girl was born? Wonderful! But you remember that even if you already brought up one child, it will not be possible to bring up the kid of an opposite sex by the same methods any more. The difference in physiology and psychology of boys and girls is huge therefore and it is necessary to bring up them differently.
By nature girls are more hardy, adapt to changes of the environment easier, mature quicker. Boys are inclined to constant search of suitable conditions, to progress. These features of behavior of boys and girls are brightly visible on the example of their games: girls generally rely on the hearing, but not on sight, they are capable to play in limited space, can consider objects long. For games the corner in the room quite is enough for girls. Boys, on the contrary, prefer to master big spaces and are guided by distant sight. They with pleasure play active games, run and jump, climb on fences, etc.
In the woman there has to be a wisdom, compassion, pity, softness, high endurance and spiritual power. The man has to be strong physically, courageous, self-assured, capable to stand for himself and to protect relatives. Cultivate these qualities in the children, buy to the girl of dolls and play with her in house, and you give to the boy machines, models of the ships and planes. Accustom the child to independence since the childhood: let helps you, let will learn to do necessary housework and helps adults even if the help his purely symbolical. The child has to see what is done by his parents and to help in process of forces: to bring a vase, to put flowers, to wipe a table, to wash a cup, to hammer a small nail into a wall, to bring tools and so forth. Let the child feel necessary to you, let carry out at first unpretentious, then harder and harder tasks and is accustomed to housework.
The difference in training of boys and girls is big too. Girls, as a rule, are more efficient and attentive, accurater and try to perform work qualitatively. Boys penetrate into material more slowly, they need to explain, starting with absolutely simple and gradually increasing loading. Material repetition, constant commission of the same actions (observance of an algorithm is not interesting to boys at the solution of a task), they need to look for the new, non-standard, original decision. Often at schools this male feature is suppressed with teachers and there is approximately following: the child force to solve similar problems by the same method, he starts anew to miss, and then is angry, becomes isolated, becomes angry about the teacher, does not wish to perceive new material. Boys need to be pushed carefully, helping them to open own, non-standard decision, but also at the same time to accustom to carry out and make out attentively work. What will be cost by the decision if because of the mistakes made by carelessness it gives the quite misleading answer? Girls, on the contrary, need to learn to be lathered unconventionally, originally, to finish thinking about the decision, without relying on samples.
In the emotional relation the boys and girls also strongly differ. Many girls are capable to keep emotions very long while boys can experience deep and strong experiences, but is short-term. Besides girls cannot often hold feelings in themselves, boys try to hide emotions. As a result, disregarding these features, parents often make mistakes. The sharp, unpleasant words told by the father to the daughter can scar her soul. The girl can worry still very long while the father also forgot to think long ago of her offense. The boy who is abused by mother can be very upset, but tries not to show it. Thinking as if the child is indifferent to her words, mother becomes angry even more. Do not forget that children are easily vulnerable. Be reserved and quiet.