How often we want to arrive in compliance with the desires, but here steps on the stage it is NECESSARY and it is necessary to drive the aspirations into a distant corner. With it there's nothing to be done, but if similar occurs all the time, then and prior to the intra personal conflict nearby. And than it is terrible and as it to resolve, we also will try to understand.
Types of the intra personal conflicts
For a start it is worth giving definition to the phenomenon which we are going to consider. The intra personal conflict – the contradiction causing strong experience. This contradiction demands permission which to achieve because of opposite orientation and approximately identical power of interests very not easy. The causes of the intra personal conflict weight, they can proceed from the outside or have external origin. But all unites them one – need to compete, each person (it is conscious or not) competes with others. When the purpose is contrary to attitude, there is a conflict and the this state is longer, the an exit from it is more difficult. But each case demands separate approach therefore not to do without characteristic of each type of the intra personal conflict. The following classification is standard.
- Hysterical conflict. The overestimated claims of the personality at incorrect assessment of requirements of people around or the available conditions are characteristic of it.
- Obessivno-psikhastenichesky. In this case the contradiction occurs between aspirations and a debt, here the moral principles do not correspond to behavior.
- Here possibilities of the personality and her too high requirements to themselves cannot reconcile.
Naturally, clean cases are not so widespread therefore mixture of two or all three types in different proportions is usually observed.
Ways of permission of the intra personal conflicts
If to aim to find the person that never endured contradictions such, then it will be not so simple to make it, practically everyone endured him. Moreover, the human mentality is arranged in such a way that the conflicts are inevitable and constantly demand permission. Without them further personal growth is impossible therefore most often emergence of contradictions bears a positive charge. But in case of the destructive intra personal conflicts there can be stresses, depressions and even suicide behavior. Here not to do without assistance of the professional. Usually copes with all other situations of people independently, using the following ways of permission of the intra personal conflicts.
- Compromise. Means the choice of one of the available options for its subsequent realization.
- Leaving. Refusal of a solution, caused by an intra personal contradiction. Usually is a consequence of unwillingness to recognize existence of this conflict.
- Reorientation. Refusal of the desires becoming the cause of the internal conflict.
- Idealization. One of forms of care from problems, but instead of their existence full not of recognition, here the person realizes existing disagreements, but runs from them to the world of own imaginations.
- Replacement. In this case thoughts, the desires and feelings causing the conflict are transferred to the area of unconscious.
- Correction. Change of idea of with more real vision of events.
Application of all these methods is at a loss mechanisms of psychological protection which turn on at everyone automatically. But it is worth noticing that in most cases consequences of the intra personal conflict have positive character therefore it is not necessary to be afraid of this state, the main thing to find the way out leading to development, but not degradation.