Kind of there was no wish to acquit jealous men, unfortunately, the jealousy has no relation to love, the full-fledged relations of two people is, first of all, a trust to each other.
If the person tries to control each step of the half, it speaks only about one: it strongly underestimated a self-assessment, he does not love even himself and does not believe that someone can love it. If the person is not happy with himself, he can even not realize it. But the discontent will be splashed out on all people around, and life near such person for the healthy personality is intolerable.
The person with the underestimated self-assessment seeks to ego-trip – as a rule, at the expense of others. Also he does it is one or at once several of the following ways:
- Constant control. "When, with whom, where, why, when you return?" - these questions will be asked a set of times daily. And the most unpleasant even if to indulge paranoia of this person and to provide video reports on what occurred when the half left "controller" doubts will gnaw all the same, he will not cease to wait for a dirty trick.
- The veiled humiliation. Somehow to rise in the eyes, the person will offend and humiliate the half, and it will become with a sweet look and big tenderness, for example: "Where you without me, such little fool helpless! You can nothing!". At the same time stroking on a back and smiling. The danger of this phenomenon is that at rather long suggestion of this sort, the person and the truth begins to believe that absolutely it is not capable of anything without the stronger and clever partner. Humiliating all faults say goodbye, at the same time the resentment is perceived humiliated as something criminal.
- Open spiritual and physical abuse. All conflicts are resolved by means of power arguments, constant open insults – an everyday occurrence. At the same time near the tyrant a half is held by circumstances, mnimo interfering a gap – children or material questions. Actually constantly suffering, the person shows the mazokhistichny nature. He hates himself, and in hatred of another does not see anything reprehensible, moreover, he perceives it as he deserved punishment and is even grateful to the torturer for the fact that that undertook a justice role.
Jealousy – the first disturbing call. You should not perceive it as manifestation of love. Otherwise the subsequent relations risk to become the most real hell. If the one who is jealous has a tendency to masochism, it will appear in a trap and it will be extremely difficult to it to break off the relations inflicting suffering. If the mistrust which is shown as jealousy does not offend the person, it has a good motive to subject itself to introspection regarding the underestimated self-assessment. Perhaps, the help of the psychologist is required.
Usually, people inclined to hate itself, do not even suspect about it. But if the person has constant sense of guilt, discontent with own life and everything that in it occurs, condemns almost all who surround it – at this person the most real rejection of own personality. And chances to fall a victim of the tyrant who is allegedly loving it at this person are very high.
To develop self-confidence and adequate assessment of and the world, serious work on itself will be required. At due diligence success is quite real. Only the person perceiving himself it what he is, or a little dissatisfied with himself, but occupied with self-improvement without constant condemnations is capable to be happy in the relations with other same full-fledged person.