Jealousy - not the most pleasant feeling. It inspires alarm, forces to cannot find any peace, be upset and to worry. Because of jealousy the relations often spoil and people lose trust to each other. All this occurs also because we are silent about the emotions, we do not speak about a problem with the partner, and it only feeds a contention seed. As to solve a jealousy problem?
The jealousy can arise because of a set of the reasons. The main most often consists in fear to lose darling. If you are not sure of yourself and consider yourself by "nursery" of shortcomings, then the fear that to you will find replacement, is unsurprising. Negative experience of the previous relations too often affects trust to the partner. Still happens that fuel to the fire is added by "kind people" - you are reached by rumors about incorrectness of your partner. And if they are also fed with a bright example (your darling behaves with girls freely, flirts, distributes compliments, pays them special attention) then the jealousy can give just smart shoots.
Sometimes happens so that our jealousy has no serious reasons. Then matter in trust. You can offend very much the loved one groundless suspicions. Therefore try to trust the partner, and to you it would be unpleasant if got into a similar situation.
How to cope with jealousy
- The cold head helps to struggle with causeless jealousy. First of all it is necessary to calm down and understand a situation. Perhaps, the fact that you took for flirtation that was not and everything is much simpler, than you think.
- Put yourself to the place of the partner - it would be pleasant to you if did not trust you?
- Talk to darling about your experiences - the open conversation has to help you to get rid of doubts and alarms.
- Be engaged in self-improvement. When you are sure of yourself, you will be more confident also in others and will already be afraid not so of the possible competition.
It is considered to be that jealousy and love of a concept inseparable, you will not begin to be jealous anyone. Perhaps it and is correct, but it is always necessary to remember that between small jealousy which just quietly grumbles inside and the global unreasonable feeling making cry and rage, very big difference and if with the first still it is possible to be reconciled then it is better to get rid of the second as soon as possible.