are people. Feelings and emotions distinguish us from cool cars to which are not familiar anger, shame, joy, grief, love and happiness. We are subject to many external and internal factors which constantly disturb our soul. One of the most difficult states is time after parting with darling. And if you really put all end over the former relations in which bright future is not expected, then it is necessary to follow some rules which will help you to discharge state of mind.
There is an excellent statement which says that the worst way to miss is to be near the person and to understand that it will never be yours. This is true. As Erich Maria Remarque spoke – She wants to remain friends. I need only to change love for friendship or to disappear from her life forever. I choose the second. Why? Because and has to be. It is impossible to lodge in the house which burned down completely. No, - he quickly told. - Only not it. To remain friends? To part small ogorodik on the cooled-down lava of the died-away feelings? No, it not for us with you. So happens only after small affairs and that turns out quite false. The love is not stained friendship. The end is the end.
The attachment will make the business, from time to time flashing memoirs about each other and, thereby, aggravating a situation even more. The more the term which is carried out together the more difficulties will be experienced by you. The first enemy is a human memory which concentrates at the passable stages, dates and various moments. But, if to exclude an above-mentioned, over time everything will be filled with white gaps and full indifference. Stop to visit those places where you were together, destroy things, gifts, photos, letters and diaries which can remind you of the former darling. The less data, the memoirs will be destroyed quicker. Do not answer possible calls, messages, completely ignoring rapprochement attempts.
Be engaged in work, study, a hobby, sport or any other business which can fill up all free time during which there can be thoughts of the past. You spend with friends, relatives, colleagues on study or work more time. Make the plan or the schedule for the future in which your actions within the next weeks, months and even years will be specified. Remember those affairs for which there was eternally not enough time, realize the opportunities in the necessary direction.
The good friend or the girlfriend at first partings will surely suggest to use alcohol as sedative. Never take this advice! Yes, it is valid, alcohol will suspend a problem, but after the end of its action of reminiscence will gush even more intensively.
Demulcents as which pioneers of pharmaceutics – extract of a valerian, camomile, motherwort, cinnamon act are well applicable. Usually in drugstores sell the mass of drugs from these herbs. If insomnia disturbs – it is possible to use stronger sedatives or antidepressants, previously having consulted to the doctor.
In the people say that the wedge is usually knocked out a wedge. This is true, but if you the person too emotional and subject to stresses, then at first it is not necessary to do it. In other person you will automatically look for common features of appearance and character of the former darling. Comparison – not a reason for new acquaintances.
The legend of a ring of Solomon on which the inscription Everything Will Pass, Will Pass Also It was engraved is often remembered. Yes, over time you will begin to forget, being distracted by the present in which there will be no past. Time heals, there is a certain indifference caused by lack of factors which would remind you of the near past. Every day your nervous system will become is more stable, soul is stronger, the will is stronger.
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