Men's unfaithfulness, unfortunately, not rarity. Spouses break a fidelity oath to the wives for various reasons: because of new love, with boredom, out of curiosity, on combination of circumstances, absolutely accidentally, purposely, etc. But, whatever was the treason reason, as a rule, men's treachery hits on family relationship hard and often leads to their final gap. How in time to distinguish this threat and to understand: whether really the husband is inclined to treason or this problem – a fruit of your imagination and what to do then?
The problem of male polygamy is old as the world. Yes, and one thousand years ago women still suffered suspicions concerning fidelity of the husbands, and having learned about an adultery, poured poison in food of the beloved. Tragic scenes of treason and also its consequence are very colourfully reflected in many masterpieces of world art culture: in works by the famous writers, on cloths of great artists, in architectural monuments, are sung in verses and songs.
Presently, of course, ways of revenge became much less bloody, and the fact of treason got less tragic shade. But, nevertheless, and now practically each woman wants to be one and only for the spouse and therefore the subject of incorrectness and its possible consequences is relevant to this day.
So, what councils are applicable to modern realities? First of all, judiciousness! Before passing to active actions and to think of plans to sweep, it is necessary to learn authentically: and whether there was actually a treason? You never know, for example, your man could fall a victim of the bad gossips envying your family wellbeing. Or you are just too jealous and suspicious and groundlessly accuse your second half of all mortal sins. And can be your spouse has good reasons for his explanation suddenly of the changed behavior, but they are not connected with its incorrectness to you in any way?
How to understand: whether really your husband changed you? If whether yes, that he does it constantly or it occurred once and accidentally? Observe behavior of your man. Analyze that in it changed: he began to pay more attention to the appearance? Its phone calls take place out of reach of your hearing now? Your spouse began to be late longer at work and suggests to spend the next days off or a holiday separately? As his mood, its attitude towards you was changed: it became more irritable or, on the contrary, more obliging, too attentive? It had additional cash expenditures hidden from you? How did your sexual life change? Try to explain any of the noticed changes not with the fact of treason, and something to others: problems at work, with health, crisis of your relations, etc. Your explanations seem to you convincing?
Do not listen to stories about treason of the husband of your girlfriend, it will hardly help you. Do not guess, do not suffer suspicions. If you indeed ceased to trust the spouse, everything to find out the best way – to talk quietly to it about it. It is necessary to do it, of course, only if you are not afraid of consequences of frankness of your man. After its "confession" the way back, perhaps, any more will not be. Remember that the treason price often – your marriage whether you are ready on such risk to solve to you.
If you love the husband and are ready to forgive him all his sins, try to hold with him a conversation so that from your lips ultimatums and threats did not sound. On the contrary, remember the best moments of your joint life, let know that your relations are expensive to you and you do not want to destroy them. Think whether there is no your fault in the circumstances? Try to approach assessment of the reasons of the incident objectively.
Kind of for you treason was not terrible, it is worth taking cognizance of councils of the psychologist. If you cannot cope with it alone, it is possible to address the family psychologist, he will try to help you to get out of this situation with the minimum losses.