NLP abbreviation today very famous for many. Alone begin to penetrate into its secrets, others own technicians for a long time and apply them in life. If you belong to the first category, then this article for you. It is always heavy to begin therefore we will try to classify highlights of this popular direction in psychology.
Introduction to neurolinguistic programming
To tell one phrase that such neurolinguistic programming or the NLP is almost impossible today. It and science because it is used in education, business, therapy, communication and development, and on the other hand and art because everyone who owns it introduces something special in the NLP. Opening of neurolinguistic programming belongs to the mathematician Richard Bendler and the linguist John Grinder. In the researches they asked a question as the effective psychotherapy works, and very much succeeded in search of the answer to it.
In hands of the skillful user of the NLP it is set the technician, i.e. tools which give the chance to change the course of thinking of people. Owning it, we have an opportunity to treat various problems from the field of psychotherapy, to develop abilities of the intelligence and to make on people extramental impact by them. For this reason often neurolinguistic programming is considered as manipulation. And in it there is an element of truth.
Definition in itself the NLP means programming of processes in mentality of the person by means of the speech. The truth the tool kit of this science includes also nonverbal communication and channels of perception. But the initial name was already fixed as the main and defining. As for manipulation, starting deep studying the NLP it is important to remember the main theses:
- if you enter dialogue with people, or at least just answer their questions, then you already influence on them;
- when you try to achieve the definite purposes related to other people, you cannot but manipulate them. Thus, practically since the birth we study and with success we manipulate people around.
- if not to take the responsibility for the acts, then manipulation turns angry, but not the benefit.
In other words, all charges towards the NLP as some kind of weapon of manipulation do not make sense. In the course of any communication it is just impossible to receive something, without having given something in exchange.
Bases of neurolinguistic programming
As well as any science, the NLP contains too the postulates and theses on which it is necessary to base the work. Let's consider some rules NLP:
- there is such concept as the Card. The first rule says that it is not the territory where areas, roads, weather and other are displayed, the card is a concept which displays the main techniques of neurolinguistic programming directed to studying behavior and state of mind of each person;
- consciousness and human body are a complete system which parts cannot separately function. Therefore it is necessary to pay attention to all components of internal state of that whom you decided to influence. These components are visual, olfactory, visual, flavoring and kinaesthetic information;
- the third important rule is that all life experience of the person is fixed in his nervous system. And at the correct approach from depths of consciousness it is possible to lift this experience and to use it in the purposes.
If you want to study neurolinguistic programming, following on a simple way, learn some NLP receptions and try to introduce them in the life. There is several main a technician of the NLP: anchoring, reframing, speech strategy, technology of the inserted messages, the Wave equipment and others. Each of the technician has the function and distinctive features. The essence of all these NLP of the receptions based on influence of four positions of perception consists in the following stages:
- to see itself with existence of a problem;
- to see itself without this problem;
- to see one more person who loves you and believes in you;
- to transfer the experiences to experiences of this loving person, using his language and its perception of surrounding reality;
- to remember this state and to switch to it every time when again there is a problem.
It is a little practice
Let's consider the simplest for assimilation and the most popular equipment - anchoring. The anchor equipment is used for fixing in consciousness of a certain emotion or an impression. The main thing to choose a moment of peak of an emotional state and to put anchor. Further, when someone from people around will influence this anchor, in consciousness again and there will be same emotions again. How does it work? Let's consider on the example of exercise how to react to criticism. Its essence consists in division by a visual wall of and the inner self which is criticized.
- Present that you see second yourself which at the time of criticism leaves for a thick concrete or brick wall.
- Estimate the maintenance of criticism at your party.
- Present that the second you because of a wall gives you hints how to react to heard. For example, if the criticism is fair, to execute one option of reaction, to tell thanks. And if the criticism is not fair, or to convince the person of the return, or just to leave.
- Further it is necessary to apply merge of two I together then at the person in consciousness ways of reaction to criticism are formed. In other words, you consult with yourself, but the image of a wall allows to abstract you from heard and to consider the reaction.
If your life or work is connected with constant communication, then to you is simply vital to acquire the NLP equipment for beginners. It will help you not only to leave easily many vital problems, but also to learn to operate by itself and the emotions. Having at least initial skills of application of neurolinguistic programming, you will become the owner of the life respected by people around and self-assured.