Probably, everyone faced in life a phrase little children – small bedka. The point of this saying becomes clear when from the carefree kid the child turns into the personality, with the temperament, character and of course fears. It is one of the most important moments of formation of mentality of the little person. What this little man will grow up directly depends on parents, the slightest mistake in education of the child of 3-6 years can become a serious problem at advanced age. Many parents realize it and try to follow modern ways of education. The greatest popularity was found today by the model of education of small children based on neurolinguistic programming.
NLP as education way of solving the problem
The strategies developed still in the eighties and technicians, made the NLP universal model of impact on consciousness of the person. The children's mentality is most susceptible to various influences and if to direct them to the positive course, it is possible to avoid an array of problems in the future.
How by means of the NLP it is possible to influence the child? As an example, it is possible to use several short-term technologies:
- imposing of various emotional states, polar on the properties (for example, it can be fear and laughter at the same time);
- regulation of a condition of mentality of the child by means of visual, audialny and kinaesthetic images (submodalities);
- non-standard reformulation of problems of the child from negative in a positive side (reframing);
- association of different types of activity in one behavior model for rehabilitation and adequate a reality vospiyatiya (anchoring, etc.).
- formation of the selective relation to the world around (different types of installations).
Metaphor and skazkoterapiya
In life these technologies are implemented by means of the game dramatized metaphors and a method of a skazkoterapiya.
Metaphor in the NLP will be in this case the fairy tale or history which will reflect the situation important for the child. The dramatized representation has to be carried out by means of favourite toys and specially created toy puppet theater. At the same time it is important that the child himself was a viewer, the participant and the creator of process. The kid himself has to decide what this to allocate any given hero and what destiny has to comprehend him. A task of the parent to transfer the situation which is frightening the child or upset him to a game in which the child will be able independently to get rid of negative emotions. For example, if on the street of the kid someone offended, then by means of the dramatized metaphors he can allocate a toy with qualities of the offender and force it to answer on merits. The same concerns all vital phenomena which irritate the kid. Thus, transferring reality to a game, you will help the child to get rid independently of many children's problems and fears and to predict the desirable future.
Skazkoterapiya – a universal method of modern education of children. Of 3 years and up to teenage age of the fairy tale and real life of the child are inseparable from each other. Therefore it is so important to learn to tell the child the correct stories which not only will give freedom to his imagination, but also will become a fine opportunity to prepare the kid for adulthood. There is a set of fairy tales in which it is told about weak and defenseless boys and their transformation into courageous and brave heroes, about hostility between the good and evil, about cruelty and mercy etc. Listening to similar stories, children find in them reflection of own life. Therefore it is important to learn not read those fairy tales which pass from father to son, but also to make stories which would help the child to solve a pressing problem.
The story about Annie became a standard of such impact on consciousness of the child in England. This general name of all fairy tales in which the kid becomes the main character, but he does not realize it. Let's give some examples:
- The child is at enmity with someone in the yard, at school or in kindergarten. Comes home sad, and you find out that he fought with someone, or someone offended him. Before going to bed, stacking the child, you tell him the fairy tale, filling with the words Once upon a time there was a Child (the Boy or the Girl) Similar to You …. Further you tell the kid as the hero in the yard with other children behaved and as could solve the problems. Thus, your child not only will be interested in an outcome of this story, but also will surely remember that template of behavior which was chosen by the hero who is thought up by you. Similar transfer of reality in the fairy tale will help the child to solve the majority of the problems in the form of a game.
- If you noticed that your child shows fear to any object or a subject, it is impossible to laugh at this phenomenon at all or at all to ignore it. Tell the kid better the tale of where the same child as he won against the monster living under a bed or for example tamed a big dog (the contents of the story have to be a consequence of that fear which is inherent in your child). Your task by similar communication with the kid to teach him not to be afraid, and to look safely in the face to the fears.
Whatever was the life situation which unsettled your child pay attention to it and by means of these two simplest receptions of the NLP cultivate in it self-confidence and the positive relation to life. At the same time it is very important to answer during the story questions of the kid and to set them. Give to the child the chance on to argue and state the point of view. Similar fairy tales has the form of the improvised training during which the child will learn to cope with all burdens of life and to be positive to the world around.