To whom as not children want to be the focus of attention. Questions flow from them every day, and every day it is required to the child more and more, both more, and more. Only. But if over time at normal children it passes, the hysteric child (or the isteroidny child) only takes roots in the habits more and stronger. About such say that they pretentious, gas-bags, deceivers and pretenders, teases and conceited persons. How to be if innocent disguise in the king in the childhood can have long-term consequences?
First, it is necessary to look narrowly at the child really. Perhaps in it the talented actor just dies, and you should not hurry and paste on the innocent the child a label with the inscription "hysterics". At really isteroidny children the signs of problems have character of extremes. Favourites of adults, they every new day require more and more attention to themselves – them, apparently, all a little. And the individual attitude towards at a lesson, and the fact that mother does not come to work, and rushes with it twenty four hours a day and that they are praised for each trifle. They demand more and more, and first it is not so noticeable. However, over time the similar behavior outgrows any borders. Hysterics, when the parent speaks by phone, shouts and abuse when arrive not as it is necessary for them, aspiration to the power, jealousy worthy Shakespeare in the friendly relations at school. You should not close eyes to disturbing calls and opinions of people around.
Secondly, it is not necessary to do the Universe navel of the child. This council is applicable to all happy owners of offsprings, however in the attitude towards the demonstrative child it is necessary to build this thought to outlook level. The praise which is so often streaming from lips of parents concerning the slightest achievement and full ignoring of sins of the child will lead to the fact that adulthood will be for him blow, nobody will bow in legs at the university, teachers of higher education institution will not consider in exclusive fumes a star without real abilities or knowledge, and the conflict by all means will be about to happen. Not to mention that nobody will begin to suffer at work of excessively put on airs employee confident in the infallibility. So the praise has to be moderately, and only for real achievements.
Thirdly, it is important to parents to watch an emotional background of family. The child demonstrator since early years learns to deceive, arrange situations, to play upon heartstrings and emotions. Parents should learn to speak "no" on hysterics, shouts and crying. To see when the child of the rights and when it is only a sketch. Yes, at mothers in such cases just heart is broken from pain and offense for the child marvelous, and even the beloved husband is perceived as a fiend. But the isteroidny child, having received the desirable, whether it be a toy, attention or even scandal between adults, will come to a complacent state and will award all losers with a victorious smile. Only the backbone, a joint position with the partner and categorical refusal, without repetitions, beliefs or attempts to agree will work in such situations.
And, fourthly, in development of similar children it is necessary to place emphasis to the aid of people around. The increased egocentrism as a rule is shown in what the child only also does that thinks of itself, forgetting about others, and every year all this resembles a mania more. The sympathy, altruism and care of the neighbor are alien to such children therefore it is necessary to draw unostentatiously the attention of the child to affairs of others, their emotions or feelings. However it is demonstrative to deprive own son or the daughter of attention it is fraught with the internal conflict of the egocentric child, the questions "the father, you unless do not love me?" and the next round of manipulations and children's injuries. It is necessary to show that its feelings are important, oh yes but also feelings of others, especially mothers or fathers, have equivalent weight.