Modern men are ready to pay for the girl on the first appointment more and more seldom. Also men how many promptly changing world, the changed norms of relationship between floors and, partially, women are guilty of it not so much.
Opinion of sociologists
In the 20th age of relationship between men and women strongly changed. Women achieved the rights, equal with men. The modern emancipated ladies can put on in men's wear, it is necessary to use cosmetics, earn many men and anywhere and everywhere assert the rights.
Many modern women do not want to feel the dependence on men even in such things as payment of coffee in coffee shop or restaurant. Therefore before an appointment lay down a condition at once that they will pay for themselves. In this situation after the meeting they even subconsciously will not feel that they are obliged by something to the gentleman who paid for them.
And this practice of relationship appeared not here and now. It arose in the second half of the 20th century and practices several decades.
During this time also men managed to exchange. Many of them do not feel greedy and avaricious any more, refusing to pay for the girl on an appointment, separate bill payment for coffee is quite normal practice presently, isn't it?
Psychology of the man
Psychologists say that men since the very first moment of acquaintance try to make the woman either the friend, or the mistress, or the wife. And the partner's attitude towards the partner depends on it.
If the guy tries to get acquainted with the girl only for the love relations, he will pay for her very seldom or to pay never. He will behave defiantly, safely and frankly to make the claim for intimate relations with her. And he will not pay for her because it satisfies it physically and emotionally. At such relations between the sexes of the woman often sincerely and gratuitously invest money in the lover: pay for him and shower with expensive gifts.
If the young man quite accepts friendly relationship with the girl, then he will pay voluntarily her trivial expenses (such as coffee). But will often try to halve them, they are friends!
If the man seriously falls in love with the woman and tries to make her the wife, then he begins to show in every possible way the reliability, solvency and ability to take cargo of its problems on the shoulders. In such relationship the guy pays for everything. The girl, in turn, shows the ability to prepare and keep order in the dwelling of the potential husband.
Financial psychology
In the modern world of expense of men for the nice girl are very big. Meetings in inexpensive cafes few times in a week, gifts, cinema, the taxi and flowers in a month can pour out easily in the sum equivalent to average salary.
Not all young people earn quite a lot to invest in the girl. Especially as even after several appointments or even after several months of the relations of steam can leave.
Proceeding from similar reasons, young people from the first appointment try not to pay for the woman. They do not want to invest in the relations, without having been confident in that, as the girl will enclose in them something from herself too.
The man begins to put in the girl only when understands that he wants to connect with her the future. And on the first appointment young people for each other absolutely anybody and foreign people. Therefore nobody should not nothing to anybody, including pay, feed, etc.
Check on commercialism
Many men on the first appointment arrange to girls various checks including on commercialism.
In light option the young man invites the girl in inexpensive cafe and everyone suggests to pay coffee for himself. In a hard option the girl is invited in expensive restaurant, and then it becomes clear that the man "left" a purse at home. In either case the man attentively watches reaction of the new acquaintance and draws for himself conclusions.
The most important conclusion which will be drawn by the man in this situation – whether will be it for the girl "a walking purse" or not.
Exceptional cases
In some cases the man cannot pay for the girl on an appointment even if he will want. Most of students – from their number. It is possible to rank those who temporarily lost work as them or "is aground". But the lack of money is not always an occasion to refuse an appointment with the girl of the dream. Especially as through some time when money appears, she can be already busy.