The generation gap is eternal, but it can be maleficiated if in family there is a mutual understanding between parents and children. However with age it is more difficult for adults and children to find it. The reasons for that are quite objective and if in time to understand them, it is possible to avoid a set of the conflicts.
The child – one of the most defenseless beings on the planet, to certain age he completely depends on parents. Even without being able to explain the concern reasons, it finds understanding at mother who intuitively and at the level of maternal instincts feels that it is necessary for the child. The child, in turn, in a womb feels an emotional spirit of mother, and after the birth this communication remains still some time.
About one year the parents are the only source of formation of outlook of the child. Gradually expanding a circle of contacts, it begins to move away from parents. It can already have own thoughts not related to the identity of parents. The beginning of visit of preschool institution marks integration of the kid in society – it has new friends, attachments and antipathies, and parents already not always manage to be aware of all experiences of the child.
Age crises
In life of each person there are periods of the crisis changes connected with growth of an organism, formation of physics. Psychologists note five crisis moments in the child's life. The child endures the first crisis at the time of the birth. The second crisis begins with the first step of the baby when he learns to move freely on the house. The third crisis is connected with understanding by the child of as persons – he ceases to call himself by name and begins to study the "I". The fourth crisis moment comes in 6-7 years and has a direct bearing on the beginning of training at school. The last and the most difficult – crisis of teenage age, it is directly connected with sharp hormonal changes in an organism. Not only his psychological health, but also mutual understanding level depends on behavior of parents during the crisis periods of life of the child.
Friendship of parents and children – whether it is possible?
Nevertheless, parents should reconcile that the child has the life, availability degree in which is regulated by him. Never it is necessary to forget that the child is not the property of parents, and the independent personality having similar structure of DNA, the general blood type, similar features, but, nevertheless, having the right to own outlook and acts. The adult cannot demand from the child of full submission only that that is dependent on it financially. But as more skilled person, the parent can advise, prompt, sympathize eventually. There is no mutual understanding in that family where the personal rights and freedoms of the child are not respected. Actually, acts and outlook are also result of education of the child in family so if something does not suit parents in his behavior – it is necessary to look for the reasons in family and in.