There are such situations when the man and the woman decide to create new unit of society – family. At the same time the woman already has children so the role not only the loving husband, but also and the good stepfather who gets on with children also falls to the man's lot. But how to make it?
Instruction
1. The attitudes of children towards the stepfather in many respects depend on how children treat mother, this relationship also is true in behavior and perception of children.
2. Remember that the love for you will not arise directly at once so at first try to keep some distance. The child needs time that to get used to you, to look narrowly and estimate you. Do not frighten off friendship with it excessive hunting to get acquainted, let's friendship get stronger.
3. Try to understand one simple fact – you will never be able to replace to the child of his real father, kind of strongly tried.
4. The best option which will help to win arrangement of the child – patience, kindness and politeness in relation to his mother. Mother of the child is the only person who is strongly loved also by you, and the child. Let he feels that you are happy to share together with mother and it all sorrows and pleasures.
5. If between you and the child there are situations at which you need to defend the principles, really significant for you, do not show hostility, the child, being in a condition of mistrust and sensitivity, it will understand as the next cruelty. Agree with it better or tell that perfectly you understand it, but you think differently.
6. Be ready to unexpected storms and explosions. It is normal that the child will be jealous, often showing it aggression and unfriendliness. To suffer rather a little, and everything will pass. The most important is to keep calm. At first for the child you are the person who stole his mother who belonged only to him. You spend much time together – have a rest, get out to the nature, solve family and any other problems. You remember: people are always united by joint pastime.
7. Any situation in which the child anyway shows to you friendliness should not remain unaddressed. In surely order note what to you pleasantly is in society with it.
8. Do not demand to call the child you the father, the father or the daddy even if everything passes perfectly. It will be better if he calls you by name, and here on "you" or on "you" to solve already to you.
9. Avoid any conflicts with the real father of the child, it is unambiguous will not lead to anything good. Often it happens that the stepfather and the father compete among themselves in the choice of gifts and many other. As a result from the child the egoist who will be able to manipulate people for the sake of own benefit can turn out. It is necessary to be not rivals, but partners.