Many parents often ask a question, about how to punish or praise the child for an act, and to receive desirable result without negative consequences. Often it happens when the praise is followed by the birth of negative traits of character, such as overindulgence, permissiveness and arrogance. Similarly is also with punishment.
The intimidated and embittered child to whom did not explain in what his offense will not be able to develop harmoniously further. Often it happens that do not explain to the child the basic rules of behavior that it is good and bad how to work in certain situations and do not impart moral foundations.
According to psychologists and teachers, using physical methods in education of the child, the result desirable to parents will not be achieved. There is a number of rules, conforming to which to parents it will be simpler to avoid the wrong punishments.
Not to punish the child deprivation of food at all. Also it is not necessary to force it to read and to write.
Parents have to be firmly sure of guilt of the child.
Adults are an example of behavior which is inherited by children. It will be difficult to show to the child that it is impossible to address impolitely seniors though the parent himself constantly so does.
Not to allocate one child before another, not to hold up as an example. If punishment both deserved, then in the investigation have to receive equally.
Never to offend the child and not to belittle his advantage.
If the parent threatened with punishment for offense, and the child nevertheless made it, then you should not forget about punishment. Thus, the kid realizes importance of words and decisions of the adult.
Often it happens that children's acts lead to punishment. And remembering consequences, the child will think whether it is correct to act this way. For example, when mother told not to be shaken on a chair as it is possible to fall, or to put on mittens that hands did not freeze.
Conforming to the rule concerning equivalent punishment, it is necessary to praise children too equally. It is relevant in families where it is more than one child. Some mothers and fathers specially do not pay attention to advantages and progress of their child as consider that they can spoil him, thus. The praise plays an important role in development of the child, in his relation to activity, the world and to consciousness. Just it is important to parents sometimes to praise for effort when the kid really tried, but, did not receive the desirable. It will be a positive reinforcement in the future to achieve bigger.