Ancient Vedic texts sometimes contain information which in everyday modern life very much is not enough for us. What is love of two? Why some people leave, and others suffer with each other while on the third as if blessing - and children at them remarkable, both the house a full bowl lies, and they as though shine, looking at each other? What is sacred marriage? If to ponder upon Vedic philosophy of love, it is possible to find answers to many questions - and to avoid fatal mistakes which lead to loss of love.
According to ancient Vedic wisdom the Alliance between the man and the woman is considered Holy if it is pleasing to gods and develops according to the divine plan consisting of seven stages which are smoothly flowing one in another or proving as wonderful explosion, at the same time.
Contemplation stage
Love at first sight — it is so possible to characterize the initial stage of sacred love. The man or the woman sees the elect predetermined by gods, heart prompts that the meeting took place with an ulterior motive. At this stage there is an involuntary sympathy, nervousness. Lovers as if look narrowly to each other, enjoying mutual contemplation. By the way, in love games of all people there is such expression: "to make eyes". The stage of contemplation brings tranquil pleasure.
Intsiation stage
The initiator of the relations (usually it is the man or both lovers) shows active attention, shows sympathy, looks after. Desire to be pleasant each other — the main maintenance of this period of courting. In this stage of love the lovers obtain the external information about each other. Lonely walks, exchange of courtesies, careful inquiries and stories — about parents, about interests, about tastes, thus all directionally on knowledge of another.
Stage of disclosure of heart
It is the happiest period — the joy of meetings, love languor, desire to see as often as possible. Not without reason wise men call it "a honeymoon of hearts". In this period of heart of lovers are open, they exhale at each other lightful streams of tenderness, love and kindness. Sometimes it seems that both lovers go as though hypnotized with each other. Unlike modern customs which allow fast rapprochement ancient Vedic knowledge recommends not to enter the sexual relations at this stage to enjoy pleasure of pure love not to allow passion to ruin "a flower of true love". The passion has to be the servant of love, but not dominate, burning bodies and hearts. This stage ""opening of heart "can last several months, and even several years. But only those who will pass this test will grow in themselves love which will live in their hearts all life.
Contact stage
This most difficult stage. The love is presented as huge spiritual work here. Comprehensive knowledge of each other, contact of their souls, hearts, bodies, reason, lives has to become a task of lovers. This period is very important for improvement of a karma. Spiritual, intellectual, emotional, physical, social and household contact requires attention and love, art to be together. This period begins with the decision to be a husband and the wife in every sense. The Vedic wisdom obliged young spouses to swear the friend such oath: "I am You, and You are I". In other words, lovers ceased to feel borders the friend between the friend. The difficulty was that hearts of lovers could be closed before each other: offense, jealousy, misunderstanding, fear to lose the happiness, excessive passion — all this has to be obsolete in this difficult, but happy period. This stage was considered as the most responsible as at this stage of development of the relations there could be a gap — internal or external. The task of lovers at this stage is to keep, deepen the relations, to cultivate mutual respect that happens hardly for the people who are too absorbed by carnal passion and emotional dependence.
Creation stage
During this period of heart of lovers have to pass already test by pleasure — corporal and emotional proximity. In the previous period there was a disposal of illusions. Now spouses are ready to accept each other with all imperfections, shortcomings — they learned to love in each other everything! Now they are ready to creation of the new world, and are ready to accept souls of children who at them have to be born in the world. Waiting for those who will become their people spouses in love "create a divine Garden of love where they tremblingly sponsor each flower". The born children — flowers in this fine garden. During this period of the spouse learn not to press as children, stop trying them to remake. The creation stage very long, it is connected with growth and education of children, and at the same time — with continued spiritual work. This time of physical and social blossoming.
Self-sacrifice stage
This stage provides disposal of everything that prevents love to take place in pure spirit. Pass tests of the relations for durability, both spouses get rid of excess attachments, bad habits, defects, finally destroying all artificial that creates a barrier between them. This stage crowns the fact that between spouses only the love, tenderness otsatsya, they have a presentiment of divine light.
Harmony stage
This fine stage is connected with the maximum interpenetration, both spouses — vzaimopronitsayema, they feel each other at distance, know everything about each other, sending divine light of love even then when their physical bodies are far apart. Their hearts merged in one huge heart penetrated by energy of divine love. Their relations is a stream of infinite tenderness and understanding, inexhaustible falls of pleasure which brings into harmony around them both space, and time. Around them everything blossoms what they touched. Even severe pain is not imperious over pleasure of love whose stream even the most difficult circumstances are not capable to zamutnit any. Souls of lovers make a single whole, and spouses do not leave even after death, being in one energinformatsionny matrix.
The Veda speak
The Veda say that that mortal which went through all seven stages of spiritual development of love become perfect, brightened up, are cleaned from karmic sins and chitsy are returned to God's bosom. Sacred marriage is a marriage which consists in heaven, and no everyday storms and adversities are capable to sadden joy of lovers who become similar to gods. Unless someone from lovers does not dream of it? It is possible to tell that it is far from modern ideas of happiness. But, maybe, the real values about which we forget in the heat of small quarrels and claims which destroy our feelings also consist in such relations?