Your child is stubborn how a burro? Then we go to you! Having rejected jokes, obstinacy – one of the most widespread children's shortcomings. Though actually under obstinacy also many other traits of character mask.
For certain you often come up against a situation when already adult child of 7-8 years it is very long necessary to ask to remove the toys and to bring order. It stubborn continues to play, without noticing your requests. But it not so much obstinacy, how many not accuracy and laziness. The child perfectly hears you and understands, but unlike you the disorder does not disturb him.If to try to impute by force to the child feeling of an order, then it will only cause the return reaction. Try other approach. Explain to the child that in an hour everything needs to be removed, and leave the room. Give to the child the chance to choose independently when in this hour to start cleaning. Return to agreed time – if the child still did not manage to clean up, but already began, encourage him. If he continues to play carefree, repeat a request, but on performance give 10 minutes. At once warn that the child will receive due punishment for refusal and sabotage, and again leave.
As a rule, after the second reminder the child nevertheless will start cleaning, very clearly letting know at the same time that he does you great kindness. Do not pay attention to it. As soon as business is made, encourage the child with favourite delicacy. If you returned in 10 minutes, and business did not move off dead center, punish the child, as promisedas promised. But you need to remove everything in places its presence. The child has to understand that cleaning does not cause in you negative emotions, it quickly and simply. And here the punishment which is thought up by you obviously unpleasant. Let similar cases will repeat several times in the future, but the child pretty fast will draw a conclusion that it is much simpler most to remove, than to suffer of some deprivations in the form of punishments.
Besides, pay attention to tone which you speak to the child to remove toys. It should not be mandative not to drop the dignity of the child, and he will quicker volunteer to comply with a request. Formulate it so: "give you now you will remove everything, and we will go for a walk with you?", later wait for reaction – the child has to agree. If the child refuses, learn the reason. Perhaps, he just wants to finish in a game or to complete the designer. Even if you will hear the answer "I do not want", agree with it that this time you will remove instead of it, and he instead of you will feed a cat. After all, all of us sometimes do not want to carry out the duties, and we dare not to do it. So give also to your child the chance sometimes to show laziness.