Teenage age – that period of which all parents are afraid, the child, being at a step of new life, wants to become as soon as possible the adult and to tear with control of parents. He tries to come to independence a trial and error method. But it will be a question not of children, and of parents who make certain mistakes in communication with teenagers too. These mistakes do not depend on age, prosperity or education.
Instruction
1. A hypopatronage, or the increased freedom. The behavior of the teenager, as well as his acts, are not controlled. Adults know nothing about where and with whom their child spent time. In such situation the parents carry out the duties formally, without doing anything for education. As a result the teenager will look for values and standards of behavior outside family and as you know, many norms can strongly contradict the law, health or mentality.
2. A hyper patronage, or the overestimated attention to the child. Adults seek to control completely not only behavior, but also all life of the teenager. Such behavior from parents kill the personality in the teenager that leads to the conflicts with peers, helplessness and many other serious problems.
3. Idol in family, or mimozny education. Become the purposes of parents: satisfaction of all needs of the teenager and desire to save the child from all possible and impossible difficulties. As a result the teenager comes under the spotlight, becomes selfish and seeks to receive all desirable without difficulties. Respectively, to such children to struggle with difficulties extremely hard.
4. Rigid relations. Tough tyranny of parents and punishment for the most insignificant faults cause fear of adults, pain and anger in the child. As a rule, very cruel men grow up from such embittered teenagers.
5. Emotional rejection, or education "Cinderella". Parents are in that case weighed upon the teenager. The teenager because of it to him the relations, becomes sensitive, vulnerable and hidden.
6. Education of the child prodigy. Many parents want to educate the child at most and force it to go to sports sections, to courses of music and a foreign language. In such situations the teenager just loses an opportunity to communicate with the peers and to participate in childish sports. He tries to get rid of such loading, performing tasks just "for show".