The psychology of development considers teenage age as a transition period very difficult and for the teenager, and for people around. Depending on classification type, in this category write down 12-15 or the 11-17-year-old maturing children.
Psychology - awkward age of teenagers
Crisis of teenage age in psychology is considered as time of a large number of the unproductive conflicts. At this time it is difficult to both parents, and child to find that thin side which passes between the friendly relation with the child and connivance, insistence and a distance. It is important to find the correct balance not to allow problems neither now, nor in the future.
The psychology considers teenage age at boys and girls identically. Both those, and others can sharply move away from relatives, become reserved, make impulsive decisions, allow unacceptable things in communication. However parents have to show on the one hand understanding and the friendly relation, and with another – to tell authoritative no concerning all spheres where it is necessary.
In a conversation it is important to emphasize that you communicate as the adult with the adult. It is necessary to help, but as the friend, but not as the teacher and the mentor. Surely maintain warm communication, help to be guided with their problems, give them all necessary literature.
At the same time it is important not to express constant uneasiness as it conducts to the fact that the child simply becomes isolated. But leads excessively strict education to the most negative consequences: the teenager whom parents deprive of the slightest freedom of choice usually embodies teenage dreams when becomes the student and moves down from parents. Such children can become addicts, to be deducted, to contact the bad company. For this reason it is so important to find balance between severity and goodwill.
Teenage age: psychology and self-checking
For a start parents control the child independently, solving for him whether he can go to night club to leave to the friend with spending the night or to visit a concert. However it is important to leave to the child the place for independence that he could control himself later when leaves the parental house, could continue to use the received skill.
Do not forget one simple rule: what you told to the child, he will be taught by a way of life of his parents, but not their words. Will be able to set only your personal example to it how to be soft, understanding, attentive and reserved. If in family it is accepted to shout at each other, be not surprised that the child will begin to arrive also. In families where problems are solved quietly, it does not occur.