The first year of joint life

The first year of joint life

When young people go to the altar, apparently, that ahead of them is waited by only the cloudless future and happy family life. Whether will be so actually? Everything depends on them.

Irrespective of, newlyweds what is the time know each other, in the first year of joint life there is a set of different experiences, feelings and emotions. There is a lot of pleasant: a storm of passions, novelty of feelings, the joy that darling is near. But, along with them, there are also difficulties, quarrels, misunderstanding. At each of spouses the level of culture and education, the understanding of family life, as a matter of experience lives with parents, the expectations from joint life. And the more in them differences, the there are more conflicts.

There are many household disagreements. The husband hopes that the wife will meet him after work with the table laid for dinner. The wife, having come home, does not understand why she has to prepare if the husband came from work at two o'clock earlier. Distribution of the family budget raises many questions and disagreements. The wife spent all salary for new things, and the husband decided an award to give to parents because they pay the credit taken on holding a wedding.

If at the beginning of joint life the young spouses do not notice in each other shortcomings, then in one or two years some trifles can begin to irritate: the tube left open with toothpaste, the scattered things, the dishes which in time are not washed, a habit not to close a door in the bathroom.

Former passions begin to cool down. The sharpness and novelty of feelings are lost. With the advent of the child of problems does not become even more. The wife is engaged in the basic by the child, she does not get enough sleep, does not manage to prepare or remove. The husband is offended by the fact that not enough attention is paid to him.

In such situation many begin to think that they made the wrong choice that it is necessary to divorce that it will not lead to anything good.

You should not hurry with adoption of such decision. Nobody said what will be easy. The family relations are a daily work. Main thing: it is not necessary to be the egoist, to think only of itself. It is not necessary to blame each other for all troubles. If the relations do not develop, so both are guilty.

In general, the divorce is a surgical intervention in family life. And after removal even of unnecessary body to an organism it is always sick. Therefore try to solve problems in other ways: to talk about problems, to find out the reasons of mutual offenses and reproaches, to forgive each other, to concede each other. Let everyone will try to make happy not himself, and the second half.

Author: «MirrorInfo» Dream Team