The involuntary witness of others secret to become not always pleasant, especially if it concerns your close friends. One of such secrets is treason of the spouse of your girlfriend. It would seem, the most right decision is to tell it about the traitor, but in life everything is much more difficult and not always the truth is good.
Why you should not tell about treason
Having brought a bad message in family, you involuntarily will become the person whom your girlfriend will begin to avoid. So occurs in most cases when the girlfriend about treason of the husband suspects, but it is not sure, knows, but still remains with him or does not guess what the husband began to change.
Understanding that you it is aware of a situation, unpleasant for the girlfriend, will force it to move away from you. You will become it is reminded the painful moment or you will add awkwardness if the girlfriend continues to live with the spouse further.
Having confirmed suspicions about treason, you will force the girlfriend to realize the fact, unpleasant for it. Very often, despite assurances that the girlfriend is ready to leave and begin new life, having learned about treason of the husband, she will look for nevertheless an opportunity to sort out the relations and can be them to keep. It is especially characteristic of families in which the husband changes, but does not leave and does not wish to get divorced. If the girlfriend knows about treason of the husband, but continues to live with him, your message will force to bare those painful dots which she tried to hide all this time. Again you will become for it the person who will be aware of an unpleasant situation now. If your girlfriend also does not suspect about treason, similar news can become shock. The first reaction in this case is a mistrust and, first of all, to you. If at the same time it with the husband manages to reconcile and smooth this situation, having kept family, you can become a derelict in this couple at all. If the family as a result collapses, especially in the presence of children, spouses can accuse you of the troubles. It is some kind of protective reaction to an unpleasant situation.
Fear that the girlfriend will not forgive silence
Very often women who decide to present a similar unpleasant message reason the decision with the fact that they cannot offend the girlfriend silence. In such situations they begin to feel the conspirators who are on the party of the spouse. In practice seldom when the fact that you were silent emerges. If treason of the husband is opened, spouses first of all sort out the relations among themselves, but do not try to clear who knows about it and who does not. Further, if the girlfriend decides to share with you this problem, to tell about what all of you knew and by that to offend the girlfriend can only you. To do much harm the hasty actions, having made the decision not to speak to the girlfriend about treason of the husband, do not report about it also to your mutual friends. Having held back this fact and further, you will be able to keep the further relations with the girlfriend and to support her if it to decide to devote you in the family problems.