Many new mothers complain of the husbands. Like, they will see off time with family a little, are not engaged in the child. But there is a certain strategy of behavior of the woman allowing to avoid similar problems.
Instruction
1. It is necessary to accustom to care of the child the man gradually. The woman all life is going to become a mother and since the childhood practices swaddling of dolls. It the woman in maternity hospital to much will be taught and a lot of things will be explained. And in nine months of expectation of the child the woman will read the mass of books, articles in magazines and the Internet about that as how to do with the child. The man has no similar preparation. He can simply be afraid to make something not so, to do harm to the child. Trust it the child at first for small time. You ask about the small help.
2. It is necessary to praise the man. Let he buttoned a diaper a little crookedly, and the diaper will be in a few minutes unwound by small efforts of the child. But he made it. And why, actually, at him from the first everything has to turn out? If something absolutely is impossible, then instead of morals and reproaches it is possible to offer the correct option: "Try here so …. usually it turns out". It will give it courage and self-confidence and in ability to look after the child. It is a new type of activity for the man.
3. Pay attention to how the child is happy with the father. It is, perhaps, the most important incentive for the man in communication with the child. Notice each smile of the child addressed to the father. The look stopped by the child on the father should not remain unnoticed. All this increases the importance of the man in own eyes. He is convinced that it is necessary to the child. That care which it gives to the child will not remain unnoticed and unvalued.
4. It is necessary to thank the man. To say simple "Thanks" - what can be simpler? The man sat with the child an hour and a half, having allowed you to have a rest behind a cup of tea with the favourite book? Tell him as it was important and as you are grateful to it for it. And in exchange bake to it favourite pancakes. It will surely encourage him and next time he will suggest to go to you to hairdressing salon while he derives pleasure from communication with the child.