At some point the life practically each woman realizes that she is absolutely ready to become a mother - wants to hear footfall of children's legs, the first to ag, to see the toys scattered on the house. And the most important – that she wants and is capable to bring up and present the love small to the baby. Sooner or later it happens to each woman, chayld big-heads and an urbanization will not prevent. Unfortunately, at many men the moment of full readiness for paternity can never come. The husband does not want the child - many modern women face such problem.
Why the husband does not want the child?
He considers that he is still too young, is not ready morally and financially that this world is too cruel … Certainly, always pregnancy can present the spouse with a fait accompli, but it will be dishonest, reaction of the future of daddy is unpredictable. Many women worry, do not sleep at the nights, simply without knowing how to force the husband to bring the child. What to do in so difficult situation?
For a start it is necessary to talk to the half frankly. It is not necessary to look for methods at once how to persuade the husband to bring the child. Learn why he does not wish to become a father, in what the reason? He against children or wants them, but not in the nearest future? If the latest version is confirmed, just agree that through a concrete period you will become parents. If the husband does not need the child in principle, and you do not think of the further life without kid, properly think who is more important – the husband or the child. Whether your love for the spouse is so strong to sacrifice for the sake of it the purpose, the main dream?
How to convince the husband to give birth to the child?
Wise psychologists advise not to run ahead of the engine, and for a start to get a dog in the house, and is better larger that problems and difficulties was enough. As a rule, men love dogs. But it is not necessary to charge at once brittle male shoulders of feeding, walk, campaigns to veterinarians and education of a dog. Do all this together, let the man slowly get used to responsibility and work.
If both of you any more not for twenty five years, and to the husband adult and solid already do not need the child, speak to him about your age more often. Of course, it is sometimes unpleasant to sound figures, but after all it is necessary. Give as an example data of medical statistics which confirm that the best biological age of women for conception and the posterity birth – up to thirty years. The same statistics confirms that the probability to give birth to the healthy kid after 35 years is small. Perhaps, he will think and over time will change the position.
How to convince the husband to bring the child? Try to make friends with good family which already has children, it is better two or three. Perhaps, your narrowed on others example to be convinced that children decorate boring life, fill it with sense. The good example is infectious too. Walk together in the park, have dinner, together celebrate holidays. It is quite probable that one morning you will wake up, and it will tell: Darling why we have no children?
In every possible way show to darling the sincere love. Perhaps, he just is afraid that after the birth of the kid it will lack your care, tenderness. Undoubtedly, most of women are given to motherhood entirely, and the man passes into the background. Such motives – sign of extreme infantility and egoism, the mature man will never be afraid of it. Act, do everything possible that your dream became a reality. Most of men, maturing, after all find in themselves desire, forces and opportunities to become the father. And let your family will shortly include not two, but three persons!