Divorce – always a stress. But if besides your former spouse left to other woman, situation is aggravated, negative emotions are capable to overflow and tighten you to the abyss of despair. What to do that it did not occur?
Give vent to feelings. Do not restrain. Only you should not call the former spouse and his passion and to pour out negative tubs on their heads. From it it will become easier for nobody not. Try to be exempted from anger and offense by means of safe methods. For example, connect imagination, present what blessed is before you and state it everything that at heart. Or pour out what you feel on paper. If there are not enough words, just draw, you draw – as it will turn out. Then burn or break off paper. And with it and your hatred.
You do not hurry to look for the new partner only to prove to the spouse, as you cost something, as you still can have a boyfriend. First, you will prove nothing, and secondly, hurt the newly appeared gentleman. Your negative emotions will not manage to be hidden. At best you will be awarded pity, in the worst – will be offended and will leave. Having aggravated your despair.
You should not look for rescue in alcohol. Yes, for some time it will muffle pain, but then you feel it again – and more sharply, than before. The same concerns also demulcents, tranquilizers. Of course, sometimes it is necessary to resort to them, but only if they are recommended by the expert. By the way, it will be absolutely quite good to talk to the psychologist about how it is better to endure a divorce how to make an exit of a stressful situation the most painless and fast. If you consider, as without psychologist you will cope – too well. Means, the movement is begun up, you are ready to open the new page of life. It is useful to analyze a situation, to soberly judge who and what it is guilty of and what now to do. But to coordinate in an introspection jungle quite dangerously - everything has to be moderately. Do not become reserved, talk to relatives, the family, girlfriends. Calibrate with it the alarms and ask on their problems – sincerely, with all the heart. Help if it is necessary, please with something. Do not avoid friendly parties, small family holidays. Life goes on, do not run away from its pleasant moments. Also raise a self-assessment. You praise yourself for what was not allowed a depression to break you, for the fact that suffering, nobody was hurt, humiliated nobody. Nothing becomes just like that, the divorce was necessary for further development you as persons. It is worth being grateful to it for it.