Sometimes it is possible to meet happy couples which lived together not one decade, besides that they have such, apparently, insuperable differences. However in same millions of people in the world daily are a high time make the wrong choice that involves a divorce and spiritual wounds. There is a variety of reasons on which people conclude the wrong marriage alliances which are coming to an end with sincere emptiness and disappointment.
The person not completely understood himself
Many people just do not know what person they want to see near themselves. It turns out, something uncertain like "cheerful", "kind", "nice". It is not enough to begin to build really strong relations.
The task of the person who is in search of the partner is to understand itself. It is necessary to comprehend an essence of the nervoz and to understand what people of type are capable to smooth them and who , on the contrary, to aggravate.
People without shortcomings just do not exist in the nature therefore it is necessary to choose for himself the person with an optimum set of negative qualities.Wrong reasons of marriage
The person can be mistaken, especially when very strongly there is a wish for it. At acquaintance to the potential partner for the rest of life, it seems to much that they know about it everything. However joint viewing family photos and acquaintance to his relatives is not enough to understand all depth of human feelings. Often perceives illusion of readiness to marriage of people as the truth and draws reality at discretion. Nonexistent traits of character and acts are attributed to the potential partner.
Often the unwillingness of the person to remain alone can become the reason for marriage. In it the state is difficult to choose the suitable partner and to construct the long-term relations.
Earlier the mankind approached marriage extremely rationally. Parents of potential newlyweds met and built the future of the children. Marriage then seldom was associated with love and happiness. Now the situation looks a little differently: besides comfort and financial wellbeing it is necessary to be still happy and in love, and to combine all this happens extremely difficult therefore often feelings and instincts become the main criterion for selection of the partner in the modern world.
At the time of marriages of convenience such criteria were considered: how many for the bride it is given a dowry, their what families there are intending spouses and as far as newlyweds are close on cultural indicators. Now everything began to look in a different way. The romantic union which is based only on feelings comes to an end when there passes love.Unjustified hopes
People desperately try to be happy all the time. They impose the overestimated emotional requirements to marriage and are extremely disappointed when their illusions begin to fall. When couple decides to marry, both hope that euphoria will last eternally, but, unfortunately, sobering up comes, and problems begin.
Each person has examples of unsuccessful families, however, practically everything marrying are sure that they will not repeat others mistakes at all, but there passes time and history repeats itself.
Some decide to marry because they were tired of failed affairs and love experiences. For them the family is the smooth water free from rough emotions. However in family of disorders it is not much less, than in life of the single.
You should not get married, based on cold calculation. The romantic union which leans only on feelings is also dangerous. It is necessary to understand first of all himself and to try to find golden mean.