"Shyness – not a disease and not defect" – you will tell, and you will be right. It is considered that the shyness in general suits girls and is nearly advantage. Actually, such trait of character meets much more often than we think. And not only at children. Just adults learned to hide and hide the shyness.
Initially each child experiences diffidence and at normal combination of circumstances over time quietly leaves this state. Parents should not struggle with such shyness, this normal age manifestation of understanding by the child of.
But there are also such cases when the shyness at the child does not vanish, and only amplifies. Let's understand step by step why it occurs and as to prevent it. At first it is necessary to define precisely that with your child something is not right.something is not right.something is not right. It is quite possible that he just loves a privacy and does not miss alone. The child for whom the help is necessary looks as follows. He experiences difficulties in communication with peers, and sometimes and with adults, suffers from the fact that he is lonely, and extremely painfully reacts to any criticism – withdraws and retires into oneself. Among strangers behaves it is held extremely down and it is lost when all attention is paid to it.
What to do if your child approaches under the second description? Everything is simple: it is necessary to support him, it is imperceptible from him, to lift a self-assessment of the kid. Try to occupy it with those affairs which at it turn out, and you praise after each successfully executed. If something did not work well, at first all the same praise, and then, kind of accidentally, suggest to make the same, but it is a little in a different way, having thereby corrected an error. Let's give an example. If the child drew a flower upside down, you should not laugh and run to show its drawing to neighbors and the spouse. Praise the kid for the chosen color, the size, proportions, and then suggest to draw together with you not a camomile, but a rose, but already in the correct order.
The child has to realize and understand that he meets your expectations, even when brings a bad note from school. And the fact that you abuse the child, is not criticism of its personal qualities, and desire to make it is even better. Remember how many times you told a phrase "and neighbour's Kolya at your age already and laces itself ties, and removes toys itself, and helps mother always". It turns out that the kid since the childhood feels that he is insufficiently good for the parents not that the neighbour's boy. This feeling develops and transformed to uncertainty in the forces and in adulthood.