17.5 months – are so much time, according to the estimates of scientists, it is necessary for people for rehabilitation after parting with darling. But there is also pleasant news: 98% of people aged up to 28 years quickly enough find to themselves the soulmate instead of lost. However it happens and so that the former partner becomes this half just. And here many find it difficult to answer why it occurs that is the basic: love or habit.
People meet and disperse - it is normal life cycles. However when they meet repeatedly, there is an occasion to think that pushed them in embraces of each other again. Some claim that it is love. Others admit that it is a habit. But at once to understand what forces you to renew the relations with the former partner quite difficult.
If it is love
It is difficult to confuse love with something. It is rather explosive and unpredictable. Blood rages, hormones play. Such feeling to former can arise most often if parting took place at peak of the relations and was very rough. Besides, such manifestation of feelings is characteristic if you left in a trifling occasion. It is natural if it is about treason, it is hardly worth waiting for big fireworks.
However it is worth understanding that the love is also not young, but mature. Such, naturally, differs in less rough expression of feelings. However on the force it is not less. By the way, such often also confuse with a habit or a routine. Actually it is many times stronger than "hormonal" option, not passions direct it any more. And chances at the alliance into which people entered repeatedly under the influence of such love, much higher. As a rule, the relations because partners, having lived separately from each other, realized that they lost and what reasons pushed them on parting renew. Usually this escape from a frightening routine when it seems that everything already remained in the past. And only at distance from darling it is possible to estimate as far as he is still dear.
Habit
Couples which renewed the relations because of a habit, as a rule, are also considered as strong. They met anew because estimated convenience of joint life and understood that together to them it is good, even despite the lack of rough romantic passions. However, in such couples there is a risk of repeated parting if the partner suddenly falls in love and will decide to try from scratch with other person. In all other cases the habit and the family relations are considered as an excellent tandem. Strong and reliable. Besides, when two meet on a habit, their union becomes richer and more interesting. They do not seek to be with each other round the clock. They have no dependence from each other. As a result everyone in couple can have hobbies and interests. And it, according to psychologists, significantly strengthens marriage. The main thing, in such relations not to roll down to absolute indifference. In this case it will be usual coexistence of two adults in one square. In such relations there can even be children, however not the fact that they will be happy.