Did you notice that good luck passes by you? Large deals break, friends move away and in private life problems arise time. There is it that people spoil important points words. Without knowing that how and when to tell, the person pulls down everything that built long time. It is time to learn to speak!
It is required to you
- Books on rhetoric and a psikholigiya
Instruction
1. You watch three components of successful communication. Perception of information is influenced by 3 main factors: what to tell, where to tell and how to tell. Each of them can lead to failure. Imagine the following situation. You decided that you need to congratulate chief, you thought over and as to make it, but time chose wrong: he was very busy. What will be result of your congratulation? At best - any, and in the worst – negative.
2. Begin with thoughts of what you want to tell. When in a conversation you begin to speak foggy and are confused, and the interlocutor can not understand your thought. Think over that you will tell what you hold back what you will concern. At the same stage it is necessary to try to solve for himself what you do not know. What can be it that will change the meaning of your words? This moment needs to pay special attention, often people hear absolutely not that you speak.
3. Present what words are waited from you by the person. Foresee its reaction. What he would like to hear and whether your information coincides with desirable. If is not present, then the task becomes complicated. It was inconvenient to report about unpleasant news always and it is even dangerous. So, before the messenger who brought mournful news killed, and treated the one who pleased the addressee with various viands.
4. When you decided on a subject of your conversation, solve, how exactly you will speak. Surely pay attention not only to the pronounced words, but also gestures, and a mimicry. People to a lesser extent can control them. Therefore according to such nonverbal signs it is possible to distinguish with ease that the person worries or lies. Try to speak with the same speed, as the interlocutor. Be at clear and unambiguous loss for words.
5. Choose time for a conversation. Estimate a situation: whether there was no what bad at your interlocutor whether well he feels, whether normal he has a mood. It is better to hold all important talk in the first half of day.