for certain noticed that people around you gesticulate with different intensity and under certain circumstances. Some use body language almost constantly, even at usual friendly chat - actively wave a hand, shrug shoulders, accept different poses. Others gesticulate only at strong nervousness or excitement, the third in general practically do not use body language, etc. Why language of a body and its correct use is necessary? By means of language of a body it is possible to seem more convincing and confident in a conversation. Subconsciously pays more attention to the certain remark supported with the corresponding gesture, most of people.
Before starting change of the language of a body, it is necessary to pay attention to how you sit, you gesticulate, you talk to people. Still it is necessary to remember that language of a body has no certain rules, everything depends only on the person with whom you communicate also his social status. For example, at communication with friends and parents the language of a body has to be a miscellaneous.
There are several very effective and universal ways thanks to which it is possible to improve the language of a body. At first sight the best way – working off of movements in front of the mirror can seem strange, but. Also you can close eyes and present what pose you would accept and what movements you would use in any given situation. Find role models. It can be movie stars or any other people. Do you like their language of a body? Observe them, you can use what you at them learned. It is quite possible that thanks to intensive practice you will gain Al Pacino's charm or sure iron gait of Arnold Schwarzenegger. First you will think that you look a little false. It occurs because your mentality will subconsciously oppose to new, unfamiliar and unpleasant movements. What will be your bearing more exactly, especially surely you will feel, than your movements will be slower, that to you will be quieter.
[br/] you can change the language of a body, but it will demand time. It is difficult suddenly to begin to hold a bearing if earlier you constantly stooped. If you try to change several habits at once, you can easily get confused. Attentively study and try to apply the following items in communication. Give to each Paragraph 3-4 weeks. New has to become for you habitual. Only then you will be able to start the next stage.
- Accept a pose of the confident, feeling at ease person. You hold the head. The hung head - sign of uncertainty and lostness. Your look has to be direct. Gesticulate more surely. Use gesticulation in a conversation. Show and describe by means of hands. The main thing not to go too far, otherwise your hands will distract attention from you. Be accurater, otherwise you beat everything around. Take your time. It concerns many things. The slow gait will give you quieter and confident look. If you were called, do not turn around sharply.
- Be not closed. Do not cross your hands, there is an impression that you want to be closed from people around, to protect itself. Also it touches your legs. Be open. Your pose has to be benevolent, open and soft. Your language of a body transfers everything that you feel.
- Nod to the interlocutor meaning that you listen to him. But be not overzealous, otherwise you will ridiculously look.
- Do not stoop, you sit directly. You hold a bearing, but do not strain. You hold a backbone to straight lines. Remember that the neck is a part of your backbone, hold it directly. You watch a bearing.
- Visual contact. Adjust visual contact. If you conduct a conversation with several people at once, support visual contact with all to create communication and to be convinced that listen to you. Be not overzealous, there can be an impression that you try to suppress the interlocutor. If your visual contact is too weak, you will seem uncertain.
- Ease. Relax the shoulders. When you are strained, strained also your shoulders. They are raised and give in a little forward. Try to relax, stir up shoulders and take away them back.
- Incline, but it is not strong. If you want to show that you are interested in a conversation, incline the head towards speaking. If you want to show that you are self-assured, cast away the head a little back. If you are inclined forward too strongly, an impression can be made that you wait for approval if you strongly throw the head back, you can seem haughty or detached.
- Do not touch the face. It can make an impression that you are nervous and to push away from you the interlocutor. Be not nervous. Try to avoid or to gradually reduce nervous movements. Do not swing a leg, do not drum fingers on a table, it makes an impression that you are nervous. You monitor the movements.
- Smile and laughter. Relax, stop to treat yourself too seriously. Smile and laugh when you hear something amusing. People will be more located to you if see in you the positive person. But never laugh the first at own jokes. Do not paste a smile when you are acquainted with someone, you can seem insincere.
- Often, if you long live or often communicate with some person, you unconsciously begin to copy each other. You adopt a manner of communication, a conversation and also - body language. You can use it to come into contact. If your interlocutor bent forward, too bend forward. If he put hands on hips, make also. But do not react to each its movement instantly, it will look a little strange.
- Personal space. Observe a distance. Try not to break personal space of other people.