Children follow an example of parents and copy their behavior. It is known to all. And also it is known that it is impossible to live in general without quarrels. People can argue, clash and quarrel. But it is important to quarrel correctly in the presence of children, at the right time to finish a quarrel and to set an example to the child.
Current problem
It is necessary to understand correctly in what the cause of a quarrel and to solve this problem, without remembering last offenses and disagreements
Creation of offers
It is important to speak correctly to the spouse about the feelings and offenses. Not to attack, and to express. To begin offers with "I feel …", "I want …", but not "You have to …", "It would be necessary to you...".
Not to be expressed abusively
Never to offend by each other in the presence of children! Each time, when the child will hear abuse from parents to each other, he will perceive all this more normal and more habitual, and further will also begin to communicate with you, having lost respect.
Voice
It is necessary to speak quietly, accurately and surely, reasoning the statements. The child will see that the quarrel is not ardent and sharp shouts, and really process of a solution.
Not to accuse anybody
In the course of the conversation, it is not necessary to say that that is guilty or this, the place or circumstances. The child in this case will get used to accuse of all the problems of other people. It is important to show that only the person himself is able to solve the problems.
Empty promises and threats
At the time of the quarrel you should not say many excess and big words which are forgotten after it. The child perceives all these words literally, trusts in it and is afraid of consequences.
It is correct to speak
After clarification of all moments, it is necessary not to forget to tell the child that the quarrel ended and everything is found out.
Not to "hide" children from the conflicts
The child sometimes better than the adult understands the situation occurring in family and sees when the relations of parents not the best. It is not necessary to lie to the child that everything well and is not present problems. If he sees them, then you should not deny it.
Simple explanations
The child remains a child. He will not understand all palette of your feelings, worry also offenses. It is not necessary "to load" him philosophy and long explanations. The child has to understand the objective cause of a quarrel and how to leave it. And also, it is important to tell the child that he is not guilty of a quarrel of parents and has no relation to it.
Actually it is very difficult to use all these rules and councils in a quarrel as emotions on a limit, and to think there is no time any more. But, having learned it, parents will take a big step to the correct education and formation of mentality of the child.