In the modern world it becomes more difficult to keep family, and young people more often ask a question: how to find the good husband or the good wife? The answer is that we put in the concepts "good husband" and "good wife", the satisfaction with result, i.e. in this case – satisfaction with the relations in marriage will depend on our expectations directly.
That the marriage union was strong, both spouses have to fulfill qualitatively the duties, appreciate and respect efforts of each other on providing happy family life. For this purpose they have to understand roles and each other duties and also difficulties connected with it to support each other in hard times. So, it is possible to call the husband or the wife with full responsibility "good" if he or she qualitatively fulfills the direct duties. Other actions of the spouse are desirable and, by and large, have to be perceived as a pleasant bonus.
Treat direct duties of the husband:
1. Material security of family. The man is called to earn money for ensuring existence of the wife and children. And the wife has to help it to distribute correctly got finance, in time to speak about financial needs and to learn to live within means. As a last resort the wife, of course, too can go to work, but the main responsibility for material providing family lies on the husband.
Council: before agreeing to marry, discuss the moments of earning money together with the elect and simulate various financial situations in future family.
2. Safety of family. The man is also called to be the defender of the wife and children and has to be ready to execution of this role and make so that his family felt safe and securely in own house and surrounding society. Here, for example, the choice of the area for purchase of housing, the place of family holiday and safety of the dwelling belongs.
Council: before agreeing to marry, discuss together with the elect of a condition of accommodation and rest of family, simulate various emergency situations and ways of their decision. Analyze whether you can entrust this person the life, honor and health and also safety of your children.
3. Adoption of decisions, strategically important for family. Certainly, in any difficult and important situations the husband has to listen to opinion of the spouse and children if those at that time have the right to vote in family, however the decisive word has to be behind it. The husband has to make the weighed, considered decisions, whenever possible, considering wishes of other family members. It would be absolutely good if he could explain the made decision if it is contrary to opinion of the spouse. Both, of course, he and only he is responsible for adoption of this decision irrespective of, true it was or not.
Council: before agreeing to marry, think how strong authority this person has for you whether you agree all life to trust it adoption of the vital decisions as far as he listens to your opinion in the presence of disagreements on fundamental issues whether he is responsible for the decisions or accuses circumstances and other people in case of failure and as in general there is a discussion of similar situations.
These are fundamental obligations of the husband which non-performance will surely crack in family wellbeing therefore, surely pay attention to it before you tell the most important ""yes"" in the life. You agree to be near this person and to share with him ups and downs, agree to depend on him in the field of material security, safety and development of family. Until you agreed, you are connected by nothing, but your consent means that you entrust to this person the life and destiny therefore weigh everything properly and accept consequences.
And if your spouse responsibly and constantly fulfills the listed above duties, then, believe, you have a good spouse and you need only to grind the relations, bringing them to an ideal.