Sometimes our relations with the soulmate do not withstand struggles of life and disorders. In such cases of steam decides to divorce. And how your general child will treat such turn of events? For it a divorce of parents - a turning point of all life.
Of course, a divorce of parents – at all not doomsday and not an apocalypse. However the whole world of the child is his family, the dearest and close people – parents. Mutual reproaches, offenses, and often hatred which are splashed out also on the child cannot bring him any positive emotions. When parents file for a divorce, the child feels own helplessness especially sharply. How to help it to endure this moment with the smallest losses?
How to behave with the child
It is incredibly important to parents to show that the divorce takes place not because of the child. Even if the child does not show it in any way, sense of guilt pursues him constantly. It is necessary to talk openly to the child, to discuss with him all issues which disturb him. It is important to you to show that mother and the father did not cease to love it that the child all will be also surrounded with love and attention of adults. At first it is necessary to spend much time behind such talk. Even if your child actively does not show it to you in any way, now you are necessary to him more than ever. Making decisions on how your life will be under construction now, it is necessary to consider also opinion of the child. Always it is possible to come to a compromise solution and to find option, convenient and comfortable for all family members. Try to agree also about that the child spent identical amount of time both with one, and with other parent. Explain to your child that he should not cease to love one of parents in connection with a divorce. Whatever they were, parents always think of it, love and miss.
How to behave at the child
Categorically it is impossible to implicate constantly the child in the personal conflicts, inevitably the child will face your disagreements, but such moments need to be minimized. Your kid has to be sure that his father and mother the best in the world. Very difficult happens in a situation when grandmothers and grandfathers do not hold this opinion. It is important to explain to the kid that it is just offense which does not say at all that his parents it is better or worse. It is impossible to show aggression at the child, to express negatively about each other. It is better not to communicate at the child at all, than to show such model of the relations. When the child will grow up, he will project it already on the relations further. In a divorce situation the tranquility, patience and ability to talk to the child will be useful to you most of all. Otherwise the child will adopt your aggressive behavior and will begin to behave also with people around, thinking that such aggressive behavior – norm.