According to statistical data, in Russia every fourth woman, and to psychological pressure – every second is exposed to annually physical abuse. And there are no direct dependence on the social status and financial position of family.
In family inevitably there are quarrels and collisions of interests. Family violence differs from the single household conflict in frequency and plurality of types. Allocate the following types of domestic violence:
- Physical abuse. This causing physical harm to the person which is expressed in beatings, slaps in the face, blows.
- Psychological violence. It is manipulation with the victim for the purpose of coercion it to something by threats of physical violence, blackmail, charges, intimidation, humiliation at people, critics, isolation from the outside world.
- Economic violence. Material pressure which is shown or in deprivation of money, or in total control of expenses, or in the ban of an appearance at work or study.
- Sexual violence. Coercion to sex in any form against the will of the person.
Any person in family – the child or the adult can be subjected to cruel pressure. Statistics demonstrates that in 95% of cases women and children become the victims of oppression in family.
Signs of family violence
- recurrence, repeatability of scenes of family terror;
- combination of several (or all at once) types of violence;
- impossibility for the suffering party to settle the conflict independently without the third-party help.
Behavior of the tyrant
The reasons of tendency to despotism are in social and psychological problems of the person. Most often people with a low self-assessment resort to similar behavior.
- They ego-trip by humiliation of other person and demonstration of the power over it.
- Present tyrants, as a rule, or in the childhood tested an arbitrariness from the loved one, or inherited such scheme of the relations in family.
- The genetic predisposition of the tyrant promotes manifestation of such lines as aggression, dominance, impulsiveness.
- A special role is played by belonging to culture in which dictatorship as means of permission of intra family disputes is allowed.
Behavior of the victim
The behavior of the suffering party (victim) is also caused by features of its mentality, for example:
- People with the underestimated self-assessment become subject to oppressions often.
- The victim of violence acquired a similar stereotype of similar behavior in family since the early childhood.
- The suffering party is afraid to break off the union because of fear to lose material benefits or the social status. In it the psychological and economic dependence on other person often couples demonstrates infantility of the victim.
Consequences of domestic violence
Violence scenes for all of them of participants and witnesses are the strongest psychoinjuring factor:
- Except injuries of different weight the harm is done to mental health therefore there are psychosomatic diseases.
- There are mental disorders, neurotic symptoms: fear, alarm, depression, irritability.
- Especially the sensitive children's mentality suffers. Children, feeling the helplessness, can look for an exit in doubtful hobbies and communications. In such families people with unstable mentality and the internal conflicts usually grow up.
How to fight against domestic violence
If the person though once applied violence, the probability of repetition of a similar situation equals 95%. Therefore psychologists advise to take drastic measures at once:
- To cease to blame itself and to look for justifications to the offender's acts.
- To realize that it is impossible to change any person if he does not want it.
- To inform as the bigger number of people from the environment about the humiliation facts is possible.
- To find the sympathizing people unknown to the house despot at whom it is possible to live some time, having taken away with itself the documents, keys necessary for a thing.
- To ask for the professional help the psychotherapist, the psychologist or in the specialized center.
But the best way to get rid of a recurrence of family violence – radical. It is necessary to break off completely the relations, to find forces in time to leave, without waiting for drama succession of events.