After the divorce the fathers not always seek to participate in life of the children. And the woman should raise the child independently. If so occurred, and you stepped together with the child to the new world, then try not to make the mistakes typical for lonely mothers.
You try to be always strong
The position to be always strong and can do all worthy, but extremely dangerous. To cope with problems alone, rejecting the help and to be always "on a post" can lead to nervous exhaustion. And is closer than you the child has nobody and it is necessary to remember it. Therefore do not hesitate to accept the help from friends and relatives. Involve in cares of the child of grandmothers and grandfathers. Cooperate with the same lonely mothers, and help each other.
You focus only on the child
After the divorce, many mothers decide that it is necessary to devote for the rest of the life only to the child. To live only his requirements and desires. It is so allegedly possible to compensate the missing parent. Such position is fraught with problems in the future. First, to be for someone the only occasion to live – excessive and excessively heavy burden. Especially for the child even if he does not realize it so far. Secondly, where a guarantee that you will not reproach the child when he grows up: "I on you put all life …" Children are happy only when parents are happy. So work, meet girlfriends, be engaged in a favourite hobby. And children take interest in life from parents.
You have sense of guilt
You feel guilty for yourself because after the divorce the child is brought up in incomplete family. It seems to you that this circumstance will badly affect its future future. Or you look for the new relations because you want to be happy. And your conscience continually strives to return all thoughts only of the child. Very quickly the kid considers all your throwings at the subconscious level and will manipulate you. Of course, easily and quickly not to get rid of sense of guilt, but it should be minimized. Find a hobby which will be interesting also to you, and your child. For example: pool, reading books before going to bed, needlework.
You avoid a question: "Where father?" and badly you speak of him
Than more you try to leave from this question, subjects rather a child will feel tension, pain and offense. The child will also ask again this question again will not receive on it the answer yet. At some point you can not sustain and in a fuse will badly speak of the father of the kid. The child will project the told words in the address and will consider himself same bad. Therefore do not avoid the answer to the matter. Talk in a quiet situation. Surely specify that you though do not live together, but all the same you love the kid. Surely tell good words about the child's father even if it is necessary to step on the vanity. The child will grow up and itself will understand everything.
You try not to communicate with "full" families
Perhaps, you feel awkward, being in a circle of full-fledged families. Or it seems to you that the child will feel deprived. But it is absolute only your subjective opinion. On the contrary, the wide range of communication will help you to leave a stressful state, and to the child to see the most various behavior models. The main thing to perceive existence of your little family as norm.