Psychologists noticed long ago that practically in each family at some point there are crises. It is considered that these difficult periods are caused by family evolution. Some marriage unions do not pass tests, others — successfully endure them and come to a new round of development of the relations.
Crisis of the first year of marriage
As a rule, newlyweds try to build own family on a certain template. Family life of parents is often imitated. If at spouses these templates strongly differ, showdowns are inevitable. Different ideas of a role of the husband and the wife and also difference of opinion and tastes become the cause of quarrels usually. Process of grinding in can sell quite painful, but at this moment it is important to remember that this process is inevitable when choosing any partner. To keep marriage, spouses should look for compromises. If someone categorically does not wish to make concessions, continuation of family life is improbable.
Crisis of 5 years of marriage
Most of families by five years of joint life has a child. Crisis usually comes at this time because of fatigue of young parents and difficulties which they experience, trying to get used to this responsible social role. During this period it is worth securing with the help of relatives with whom it is possible to leave the child. It will allow to have a rest from household chores. Besides, crisis of five years of matrimony is often connected with transition of passionate love for gentle attachment. At this moment it is important not to allow to die away to sexual inclination, otherwise cooling in the relations is inevitable. Career difficulties can deepen crisis also.
Crisis of 7 years of marriage
By this moment of the spouse are satiated with each other and the environment. Children grew up, the career was stabilized, each lived day is similar to previous. The routine tightens, without leaving the place to romantic rushes. The husband and the wife, comparing the dreams and reality, feel disappointment. Some in search of thrills begin to get the relations on the party. To overcome crisis of seven years, it is possible to think up the general family hobby or to go to a travel. The novelty of impressions will overcome sad monotony of existence and will stay the fallen asleep feelings.
Crisis of 15-20 years of marriage
After 15 years of joint life far behind there is a grinding in, career difficulties and even monotony. Nevertheless, in many marriages there comes truly the turning point: the relations in family go wrong because of crisis of the middle age experienced by one or both spouses. Youth already behind, but an old age did not come yet. The reached material and family welfare begins to lose the value. The person can feel locked in a trap of family and career, there is a feeling that he deserves something the best. The general feeling of dissatisfaction can be aggravated with teenage age of children who often become uncontrollable and aggressive. It is successful the joint purposes which will rally family will help to endure this crisis. It can be new common cause: business, hobby, charity. Besides it is possible to arrange each other pleasant surprises and to try not to swear on trifles.