Happiness to be a parent not everything comes so easily. Some can pass through the whole mountain of inspections and treatments, others cannot make the decision to bring the child, the third just do not want the child. Each family has the Road of Life, and if families with children are cut with way of parents without children off, some questions, phrases or statements can be inappropriate. We bring to your attention ten a question and to those which extremely are not recommended to be discussed with childless couples.
Instruction
1. "Why there are no children" the Person can see before himself two happy children, but can not see a situation and the reason of absence of children at them. Of course, he will bring up the subject and such, apparently, simple and clear question can mean absolutely difficult answers. It is quite possible that couple struggles many years with infertility, and they somehow at all have no desire to speak about such sad subject. Or that it is even worse, they are happy and so, without children, and they will argue the point of view and to justify oneself before parents.
2. "You will want to have the child, you will change the mind" Usually similar phrases it is possible to tell in other words (you will mature, you just did not find the necessary person, do not delay with this business), but sense their same, and they conduct to what couple realizes – the birth of the child is a final step their life. But, as you understand, it far not so.
3. "There will be no child yet, you will not understand what is love" It not how many is inappropriate how many it is offensive. It turns out that sincere, warm and real feelings which childless spouses have each other, to relatives, friends and acquaintances – not love. Without doubts, the parental love is the strongest and the most sincere, but it differs from love for all rest only in the certainty and purity.
4. "Do you think that you are tired? Au-oh, you know nothing about fatigue" Care of children gets tired and exhausts, but and childless, the friend or the girlfriend working every day and being engaged in care of the grandmother or preparation for, for example, wedding, too has the right to say that they were tired. Such remark is appropriate if childless couple, the friend or the girlfriend, were tired of the laziness.
5. "I too so would like, but I have children" If you really are responsible parents, you will almost not have time for hobbies. But your sighs and words about what children "prevent" to do you also sound from outside as if you are the prisoners aspiring on freedom. But, at the same time, without having given birth children, you so would not sigh. In that case it is not necessary to force childless couple to feel guilty that you refuse to yourself something while they live happily. Besides, you all too nobody forced to bring the child therefore to feel sorry for you there is nothing.
6. "Who will take care of you" This question will play in an old age, most likely, against you. At least, it would be inhuman to give birth to the child in order that he became in the future a nurse. And if to speak openly, then a half of lodgers of nursing homes has children. Remember that.
7. "Nothing that you have no children: the child to you is replaced by a dog" Comparison of an animal with the child is just unacceptable, any pet will not replace the child. At least, any animal lives less. Besides, for the childless couple trying to start several years the child will be to show offensive your offer to get a dog or a cat.
8. "Until you bring children, you will understand nothing" the Parents having children very much like to finish similar phrases any subjects, including subjects about policy, the world and art. Of course, the outlook of the parents having children changes, but it does not mean at all that they become wise and that people without children cannot understand them. Happens so that childless men, women or couples can give more valuable advice.
9. "You do not come to us – at us children" you will not have to solve for childless couple: whether they can come to you or visit holidays on which there will be baby's cries and laughter. You do by such "bans" of couple of derelicts. Perhaps, they wanted to communicate to children whom they try to bring several years?
10. "To give rise –" to Give rise to a feat is not a feat, and, in fact, quite normal function of a female body. If to give rise – a feat, what it is possible to tell about couple which took adopted children, looking after disabled children and at the same time not lost herself? I doubt that it is impossible to call it a feat therefore it is not necessary to extol himself the children loved for existence and to blacken those who have no children. Everyone has feats.