Girls do not choose to whom to give the heart, and fall in love with young people together with their merits and demerits. It is possible to reconcile to some minuses easily, but if the guy likes to drink, it will become a problem.
Quietly talk to the guy. Tell how disturbs you that he often takes alcohol. Tell that near the drunk gentleman you do not feel safe, it is unpleasant to you to kiss him, you cannot, lying on a sofa, to bury in his breast as from clothes smells of the reek of alcohol. You do not shout, do not refer to opinion of acquaintances on your man, you do not say that it is a shame to you to be near it – it will cause reciprocal aggression. You talk only about you two therefore state what is not pleasant to you.
Regular alcoholism has to have a reason and if you understand what pushes the young man to a bottle, it will be simpler to you to deal with a problem. Perhaps, he is not satisfied by himself and the appearance, considers himself boring and uninteresting, is confused and feels awkwardly at your presence. Or it does not accept its work, he considers that he achieved a little, but at the same time is in constant tension and cannot relax. If you know in what a problem, you can promote its decision. Help the guy to find the image which will be pleasant to it, tell how to you it is good with it what he is clever and interesting. Support in search of new work, offer effective techniques of stress relief: perhaps, you could play together sports or are more often walk outdoors. If the problem consists in search of meaning of life which the young man is not capable to make out without alcohol probably in this situation the consultation of the psychologist is required. However all these ways are good only if the guy wants to solve a problem not less, than you. Otherwise you only in vain will spend time.
Many drinking people do not consider themselves alcoholics until receive to it obvious confirmation – hallucinations. Usually at this moment they at last frightened become reasonable and ask for the help. If you in despair are also ready for everything that darling stopped drinking, try to play it. Tint water in the countess brilliant green, take couple of domestic rats from the girlfriend and let to walk about on the apartment, ask the friend neighbor who is aware of your problem, to hide on a balcony in a hat from a foil and to look out periodically from there and to consider the young man in the field-glass. Answer all questions of the wondering guy that similar you see nothing. The upset young man, most likely, and itself will suggest to call to himself an ambulance. However be careful, in certain cases the drinking people can behave is extremely unpredictable.