Recently the violence problem in family began to have large-scale character. Many women should face manhandling from the husbands. At the same time not everyone tries to solve this problem, fondly believing that it will be resolved in itself or it is already impossible to correct something. However both the belief is delusion.
Why the husband beats the wife
The husbands raising a hand against the wives can be divided into two types. The first includes those who accumulate aggression during scandal with the second half, and then, having been at a boiling point, attacks the wife to splash out a negative. At such husbands the house manhandling becomes a habit. It becomes so ordinary, as well as to have coffee in the mornings.
The second type of the beating husbands meets less often, but it is the most dangerous. Unlike the first type, this category does not need the juicy scandals at all to raise a hand against the wife. These husbands externally look absolutely quietly, but at the same time at any time can show aggression moreover and with application of some objects: hammer, chair, knife. Such people have serious mental disorders and to live with them – means to endanger the life.
Most often those men who achieved nothing in the life are engaged in manhandling. Due to manifestation of violence over the loved one, they try to find the power at least over something.
What to do with the violent husband
To cope with manhandling from the husband, first of all the wife needs not to allow manifestations of violence over herself. She should not feel sorry for herself and sob in a pillow. Instead it is necessary to get it together and to think carefully over current situation. It is important to understand in what the reason for the arisen aggression from the husband and to decide whether it is worth continuing to live with this person.
It is necessary to consider further actions without emotions, soberly assessing a situation. For this purpose you should not make any decision in day when the husband showed aggression. It is better to wait couple of days to calm down.
If the decision to keep family and to remain with the husband was made, then the woman needs to act in several directions at once and it is necessary to begin with itself. First of all it is necessary to liquidate in itself the fear caused by the spouse. He has to see that are not afraid of it any more. Then it is necessary to lift own self-assessment. It is necessary to begin to respect and love the "I", for certain the spouse already managed to inspire in the wife that she is ugly and silly. Now it is necessary to direct all forces to change this belief at first in itself, and then and in the opinion of the husband. The behavior in relation to the husband also should be corrected. It is necessary to try to hide the irritation, to become tender and positive. Not superfluous will and remind the spouse of his advantages. Trying to renew the world in family, it is important to work gradually, without hurrying. The main thing - should be remembered that if the man does not recognize the problems with self-checking, then all efforts of his wife on building relations will be vain.