Usually concept "family" automatically means desire of both spouses to have the child (or several children). But sometimes happens and so that the wife dreams of the child, and it causes persistent objections in the spouse. And under various pretexts, both convincing, and frankly tense. And in all other questions between the loving people full mutual understanding, they love each other and consider the marriage happy, successful. How to solve such problem?
Hard question as it is necessary to consider all circumstances and the husband's arguments. For example, in life of married couple really there are moments when with the birth of the child it is necessary to wait, as a rule, because of financial and household disorders. But how to be if it seems and with finance everything is all right, and the housing issue is resolved, and age of spouses any more not the most young, and the husband all is not ready? It is possible to understand bewilderment, disappointment, and sometimes and burning offense of the wife. But even in such situation she should not resort to reproaches, scandals at all, especially to become pregnant to spite of the husband (for example, having assured him that she still takes a contraceptive pill). As it is very important that the child was desired true! And if the husband feels deceived, it will hardly become possible.
Much better quietly, judiciously to talk to darling on this delicate subject. It is necessary to try to receive the frank answer: what confuses (or disturbs) the husband why he does not want the child. And depending on the answer to decide how to work further. For example, if he is afraid that appearance of the kid will sharply worsen a financial position of family (the wife will not be able to work, new expenditure, etc. inevitably will appear), once he suggests to calculate together the family budget, to plan how it will be possible to cut down costs. Men love specifics, and such approach for certain will cause a positive response from the husband.
There are young people at whom the fatherly instinct kind of "sleeps" and wakens far not at once. That is, the spouse can sincerely love the spouse, but at the same time not understand: that, actually, such good in these babies, the helpless, crying, loud, taking away plenty of time and forces! Here often the visit to relatives or acquaintances who have a small child – a subject of fatherly pride and adoration helps. Having observed as happy daddy potters with the kid, the husband can quite change the point of view. If behind unwillingness to bring the kid the egoism of the man, persistent unwillingness that the wife still though found for someone time, care, love is, is really hard case. Here it can only be regretted. Most likely, she should divorce and look for another who is not frightened by a role of the father.