In each family there are problems and disorders of different scale. One of such problems – the unemployed husband. There are several possible reasons for a similar situation, as well as several possible decisions.
Everything suits the husband
The simplest situation – the husband it is banal does not want to work. Most likely, your blessed grew in family which head was a woman. Perhaps, care of the child in this family was brought to the cult level. When similar children grow up, most often they continue to parasitize on the mother. Perhaps, she still supplies it with money in spite of the fact that it "dear boy" already has the family.
It is extremely difficult to re-educate such men. You have by and large only two options. You can become it the second mummy, pull all family, or deliver the ultimatum – it finds work, or you leave. But you should not hope that it will really find to itself(himself) some type of work.
The wife as the psychotherapist
The second and very unpleasant option of development of the situation – the man who, it seems, looks for work. Similar men can look for work as years, go to various interviews at the same time absolutely without results. So the latent unwillingness to work works. It can be connected with uncertainty in the skills and abilities, fear of people, an implementation failure. More often a similar bouquet of negative emotions the man drags everything from the childhood where exacting parents "cowed" him, comparing to other children.
Support the husband. You do not saw at all, do not abuse and do not reproach if he treats the third type.
The only way which it is possible to help – to cure to it the man his complexes. If at you it turns out to inspire in it trust, it can open to you, tell about fears. In a similar case it is possible to try to sort and overcome them in detail. Support such man, explain to him that the only thing that he can make in such situation – to overcome the fear, to make what is the most terrible. Perhaps, for a start it is worth looking for slightly less prestigious and less highly paid work, but here to begin the main thing.
Sometimes just there is no opportunity to earn money
And the last option – the husband really looks for work, but cannot find within several months in any way. No matter, what occurred. Whether reduced your husband, he got sick, just there are no offers on his specialty in labor market … Similar critical situations do not last eternally, but it is important not to break waiting for favorable times.
If the husband is seriously not self-assured, descend with him to the psychotherapist if means allow. Time of several sessions it is enough that "released" it, and he could be engaged in serious job searches.
If in the near future only you have a work, discuss distribution of duties with the husband. If you have an opportunity to work often more, at an inopportune time including, the husband should undertake a considerable share of household chores. Discuss it quietly and without nerves. It is especially important to discuss the financial moments – what you will save on what it is possible to do without what reserves the family has. Agree where spare cash will lie, do not force the husband to elicit at you funds for necessary trifles like cigarettes, it terribly spoils the relations in family.