Problems in marriage begin a time from the very beginning of joint life: quarrels, constant showdowns... However happens so that everything is excellent, in family idyll. And suddenly... the husband leaves to the girlfriend. What should I do? Panic, depression? Everything can be not so terrible. The main thing is to forgive and understand itself.
Instruction
1. First of all you need to ask questions to yourself: - that this man means to you, abstracting from the fact that he is your husband; - what feelings you have in relation to the husband: love or just attachment? - could you live without husband further?
2. The main thing that here you need to understand, so is that only you are guilty of the incident. As, first, if the husband did not want, he would not leave, that is in you there was something like that that allowed it to leave. Perhaps, it claims to it of you, insufficient love. Secondly, it is necessary to understand that the husband made it decisions from set of the internal factors which said to him that it is necessary to change everything, to begin new life. Also believe, from it is not better for him at all. Thirdly, you will not be able to change the husband but only only to change yourself so that this person wanted to return to you.
3. The situation is quite possible that there was very strong conflict and misunderstanding between you, as provoked leaving, that is in this case the act from the husband was made in revenge for something. In this case you need to understand the causes of conflict, to estimate first of all the behavior, and then and behavior of the parties. It is important to take a detached view in this case of a situation of other person as though it were you. It is very good psychological reception. Often after that everything rises on the places as you feel what pushed it on adoption of such decision.
4. In this situation you do not blame the girlfriend as she in this case only as the link that is, on the contrary, separating a link which caused parting with the husband. Understand that if the husband did not want to leave, he would not leave. That is he had on that reasons. And these reasons need to be looked for in themselves.