Men change the wives for various reasons: because of desire to feel to "young people", a variety, adrenaline. If it is not fleeting communication, but the long relations with the mistress, it is difficult to conceal them. Not always the traitor leaves family for the sake of other woman, and then the wife should think what to do if the husband loves another, but does not leave.
As a rule, the traitor stays in full confidence that he keeps a situation under control. Tries to hide the mistress from the wife, and says to the lady on the party that at home problems and now not the best time for a divorce. When the unfaithful husband does not want to leave to the mistress, the woman herself can decide destiny of family.
Try to hold the man
It is difficult to be with the spouse when he could fall in love with another, but sometimes feelings are higher than unfaithfulness. In this case it is necessary to make efforts to convince the husband to remain in family. It is not necessary to show cards in the same evening, at first pave the way.
Think of your relations and try to understand the reasons of its unfaithfulness. Just like that the man will not go for treason, so something is not pleasant to him or is not enough in family. The reasons which you can affect: not well-groomed appearance, nasty character, problems in intimate life, bad housekeeping, etc.
Both spouses are guilty of treason, as a rule. But in your forces to work over the mistakes.
Try to do everything that to it was comfortably at home. Create houses such situation that that woman receded into the background. After a week of good attitude it is possible to pass to a conversation about the future. Discuss current situation. Do not use blackmail, threats, you do not pass to shout and continuous charges. Report to it that you know about his mistress, and understand that she appeared from behind problems in family. Suggest to work together on the relations and to keep family. Discuss a situation so that at the end it was clear – either you, or the mistress, but do not put directly the ultimatum.
Parting
But if you do not want to live with the traitor, it is necessary to leave him. It is necessary to make it without excess scandals and dismantling. But only if you are sure of its treason and the decision.
Take a break not to do nonsenses on emotions. Consider a situation and make finally the decision, after its leaving your life will change.
Having calmed down, it is possible to think over as you will tell it about parting. Each action has to be counted. Most likely, the husband will deny the unfaithfulness, will begin to accuse you therefore it is better to have the evidence or an iron position. After the conversation tell that you do not want to live with the traitor. If your apartment, it is possible to pack previously its things and to put near a door. But from the general apartment it will be already not so simple to expel him though it is possible to suggest it to leave to spend the night to the mistress.