Financial disorders and the shortage of money are the main reason for house scandals. A considerable part of women are dissatisfied with the salaries of husbands, and if the woman herself earns more than the husband, wait for a trouble.
If the wife earns more, the husband is guilty?
One of marriage cornerstones – mutual respect. And here the problem, often because of stereotypes, own installations and other important things also is, the respect for the man is formed on the basis of his financial position and financial opportunities. It is considered that if the woman earns much, and the husband is not enough, then he is a loser, the parasite, the henpecked and the idler.
Strange, but the fact – from Internet conferences, psychological seminars and trainings develops an impression that the only criterion for the man's assessment – money.
So, first of all, for comfortable coexistence in a similar situation it is necessary to change the system of coordinates. For certain, you have a mass of things for which you can respect the husband – he is ready to sit with children, remarkably prepares, loves the work, does favorite thing, saves the planet … You should not operate with outdated cliches. And you do not saw at all the husband if he tries to change a situation or just is proud of you and very much supports in your work.
Salary - more problems is more?
But here if the husband in every possible way negatively reacts to the salary of the wife, feels complexes and is tormented, with it it is necessary to make something. Otherwise current situation can undermine marriage gradually and lead to a divorce. If the husband is irritated by the current situation, he should think of search of new work and new sources of income. If it does everything for this purpose possible, stock up with tranquility and patience, the situation will change, and in family everything will get better.
You do not share with acquaintances and friends on work as information on what you earn more husband. It can lead to misunderstanding.
Well, and if the husband does nothing, but constantly criticizes you (complains of a lack of attention to it to darling and children, grumbles concerning a mess, considers that you too seldom prepare), it is necessary to understand the real reasons of current situation. It is possible that your man is glad to the current situation. First, it has no financial problems, and secondly, it can infinitely dump all available discontent on the wife. Psychologists consider that similar problems arise when the male pride is hurt. Unfortunately, all recommendations in this situation are addressed to women: 1. Surely discuss current situation.2 with the husband. Do not perceive the help of the husband with economy as due. You praise and thank the man when he washes the dishes, vacuums or washes clothes. Ideally female labor on a household field has to be rewarded by a praise too, but women are more simply reconciled with her absence.3. Agree that money (or their part) is stored in the special place from where and you, and the husband can take them. 4. Never compare the husband to successful friends or relatives. It will very strongly wound vanity.