Unfortunately, not always marriages are strong. The love between spouses can weaken. Happens that the love of the spouse for other man is the reason of cancellation of the union.
In such situations the husband can ask questions of what he made not so why the wife fell in love with other guy whether it is possible to save family still. Misunderstanding and offense in relation to the spouse quite explainable feelings. Somehow to find this way out, it is necessary to understand a situation and own feelings.
Talk to the wife
You should not leave from a problem and to pretend that nothing occurred. At the same time, the spouse should not make row because of her feelings to the stranger to the muzhichena too. It is better to discuss quietly current situation together.
Of course, to cope with emotions and to be adjusted on a constructive conversation in this case very not easy. But understand that your wife – not a thing and not the robot. The fact that she fell in love with another could occur absolutely in spite of herself. Respect its choice and you appreciate that she found in herself courage to be honest and decent in relation to you. Your woman revealed any and all secrets, but did not begin to conduct a double life, deceiving you. At least she can be thanked for it. Show patience and listen to a position of the wife. Perhaps, her story will help you to draw useful conclusions and to correct own behavior in the future. Perhaps, your spouse will tell what in your marriage was not so or as your behavior pushed away her.
Of course, it would be better to discuss problems at the time, but take this situation for granted and take from it though some advantage.
Check feelings
Perhaps, the situation did not come far yet, and your spouse is deceived in the feelings. If you do not want to lose it, try to save the marriage. Pay more attention to the wife, you give her flowers. Invite the spouse in restaurant or theater, organize a travel to that country which she wanted to visit long ago. Perhaps, it is not the end of your love, but crisis of the relations yet. That, how well you will cope with this test, in many respects depends on your keenness and patience. Bring revival and a variety your intimate life, you give compliments and gifts, do surprises to the wife.
Show to the wife that she is necessary to you. Prove that you love her, and try to wake also its feelings.
Release the spouse
If your efforts did not result in result, it is necessary only to release the spouse. Understand that your relations changed forever. Violently you do not hold the beloved. Do not accuse her of the incident and you do not execute yourself for its leaving. From the fact that you will leave not in a civilized way, and with scandal, nobody will win. It is unlikely at you it will turn out to be friends further, but it is worth keeping some human relations.