Modern women are free to choose independently life priorities and to solve whether to build labor career, to become the diligent housewife or to go, for example, to look for on even any way themselves in art. However the woman can resolve the matter with hardly any trouble at all only in case of full material independence of anyone. Otherwise it should consider opinion of close people and, first of all, the husband.
It is required to you
- - help of the psychologist;
- - professional courses for the woman;
- - services of the housemaid or nurse.
Instruction
1. If the woman does not want to work, first of all, analyze the reasons of its decision. Perhaps, she has too many household chores, she wallowed in household problems and she just has no forces and desire to make a new labor feat. If you are a husband, work all day long and consider that your wife stays at home and does nothing, try to estimate more objectively all degree of her employment household chores. Child care, their education already takes away many forces. But your wife for certain also prepares, erases, irons, removes the apartment, goes shopping, to drugstores, etc. Your habitual comfort, a warm dinner, clean shirts, etc. – in all this many female forces are put.
2. In case a situation in your family such as it is described above, seriously think of how to unload your spouse from household chores and to help it to find time for professional growth. At the consent of the spouse it is possible to employ the nurse, the housemaid, to define children in day nursery or kindergarten. Do not forget also that if your wife works, you should halve with her obligations for the house.
3. Happens and so that the woman perfectly feels as the housewife – family, arrangement of your general life she is concerned much more, than production progress. If your spouse with pleasure performs all homework, raises your children and does not dream of career development, think whether you should deprive of it and itself pleasure to live in the cozy well-groomed house, to fully eat tasty homemade food, but not warmed semi-finished products, to see the happy children playing with mother, but not with others aunt teacher, etc.
4. When the material situation of family is really deplorable or you see that your wife – the thorough parasite also for days on end rolls on a sofa or goes with girlfriends shopping, seriously talk to it. In a quiet situation discuss your family problems, openly tell the spouse that you wish she was engaged in something serious, explain the reasons of your request.
5. Keep in mind that, without looking on any emancipation, still there are women who are initially adjusted on the fact that the husband has to be the getter in family. If your wife has such living position and at the same time does not carry out the household chores, try to cut down the sum of the money given by it. Do not give in to arrangements and complaints, you remember the purpose – to force the spouse to work.
6. Tell the wife not only about own professional progress more often, but also about achievements of the colleague female working with you, about their desire to build career, to raise and develop. You should not encourage film images of the glamourous stars living at the expense of men in the presence of the wife.
7. If you not the oligarch and at you are not present million savings on an old age in bank, remind the wife who is not wishing to work of need of earnings of seniority for charge of pension. Place emphasis that life is unpredictable and this social payment can be useful to it very much.
8. When the woman does not want to work only because she does not like her profession, help it to be retrained, master that business which to it really to liking. For this purpose at all it is optional to graduate from institute, short-term courses can come to the rescue.