To become mother – the most important for the woman. It is joy doubly if the father also expects emergence the baby. However, there are situations when at news of pregnancy there is unnecessary also future mother.
Assessment of the situation
Despite a storm of feelings in such situation, try to get it together. Life on it does not come to an end. Look at it on the other hand: if your young man threw you, having learned about pregnancy, it was hardly worth continuing with him the relations. Such person will not become the reliable partner for further life.
Soberly estimate situation in what you appeared. Think whether you have reliable people whom you could ask for the help, both moral, and financial. Your parents, friends, relatives can be such people.
Do not spend time for pity to yourself. It will not become for you the necessary help. Besides, do not call yourself by the reason of a rupture of your relations. Both partners are guilty of a similar situation. If the person left your life, so it was not your person.
Decision-making
One of the most difficult moments in a situation when you remain a pregnant woman alone - it is to make the correct decision. There can be two options – to leave the child and to make abortion. Listen to the mind. It will help to make a choice. If you decided on the child's birth, think over the opportunities for creation of necessary conditions. So, you have to have work from which earnings would be enough for you for keeping of and the kid. Besides, it is necessary to provide financial support for the period of a child care leave. It can be payments for the place of work and also the help of parents or relatives. Having made the decision to give birth to the child, protect yourself from opposite opinions. The negative spirit of people around will have negative effect on you and the kid. Explain to the family that you made the firm decision. Over time they will reconcile and, perhaps, will begin to help you. Anyway count only on yourself, do not hope for the hypothetical help from other people. So it will be easier for you to solve the arising problems. Switch the thoughts to care of the health and health of the future child. Make it the new purpose. Be protected from all bad, irritating. Find what would give you strength and positive energy. For someone it will become music, for someone – communication with animals. Surround yourself with pleasant things. If, having carefully weighed, you decided to get rid of the child, address to clinic for women. The psychologists working there will help you to endure the difficult vital moment. Besides, specialists gynecologists will render you the necessary help.