Some people make many efforts to improve the relations with friends, colleagues and partners while their communication with parents leaves much to be desired. They make a compromise with foreign people, but do not allocate time and forces for coming into contact with mother and the father.
1. If your relations with parents are not got on, you should not write off everything for their obstinate character and a difference in generations. The problem, most likely, is also in you too. Think how you react to councils and recommendations which to you parents make. Perhaps, you do not recognize their authority and treat their words indulgently or even with irritation. This wrong attitude towards mother and father. Think that they already were at your age, so, can present what problems you face.
2. Besides, you should not forget that parents worry about you. The remarks and as it seems to you, cavils, actually they can express the concern for your destiny. Already for their care and love it is impossible to charge-off from the parents. You appreciate them, hardly someone else will be able to accept you and to forgive also. Promise yourself that you will treat more tolerantly the parents, and the first step to building relations with them will be already taken. Understand that you offend them the disobedience.
3. Understand what to your parents becomes over the years more important to be felt that you need them. Therefore they can try to interfere your affairs in such a way to become a part your life. In your forces to change a situation. Begin to devote parents in the problems. You ask them for suggestions, tell what happens to you. Then they will not make attempts to independently find out your secrets.
4. Try to understand the mother and the father. Put yourself on their place. They see that technologies develop at reckless speed, the pace of life is increased. With age it becomes more difficult for them to hold former positions and to be guided in the huge sea of information. They feel helpless, old-fashioned and hope that children will help them to be aware of the events. Therefore it is worth paying attention to the parents, having shown at the same time patience and care. If your parents decided to hit in nostalgia and to tell you about former times, show sincere interest. Understand that their destiny is a part of your family history. You should not neglect the heritage.
5. Happens that parents try to receive more attention and begin to manipulate the children, being covered with age or diseases. In this situation it is difficult to keep good relations with mother or the father, to satisfy their requirements, to express respect, but at the same time without giving itself to deceive and to use. You should not indulge infinite whims, but also it is necessary to react to complaints too. You can suggest to ask for the qualified medical care in your maintenance. So you will not offend parents and will not allow to manipulate yourself.
6. Try to keep proximity with parents. You share with them details of own life and surely ask on their affairs. Show attention to persons of the of mother and the father. Give them compliments, long-awaited gifts. Present that you are going to win sympathy of the new friend, and think what you for this purpose would make. Remember that the relations with family members demand work on themselves. It is impossible just to take parents for granted. Then you can seriously regret about it.