Such concept as "mismatch" is more often used. What is considered "aberration"? And whether it is possible to speak about existence of an ideal ratio of age of partners in general? In this article it would be desirable to try to deal with a question of a big age difference.
In recent years society at last began to treat more loyally uneven-age marriages and ceased to label. The conscious choice of more mature person in partners is not always the decision to live on all gotovenky. And vice versa – in any way not the aspiration to hold the flowing-away youth and to ego-trip. Everything can find an explanation from the psychological point of view.
Growing and development in each person takes place especially individually, different interests, the purposes, ideas of life are formed. And very often it comes to what with age-mates – is simply uninteresting. Therefore at the heart of durable and happy marriage not the belonging to one generation lies in any way. It is much more important to be able to speak one language and to look in one direction.
Remained in the past of a situation when very young girls went in marriage for adult men only to solve the material problems. And adult men choose in the spouses of young companions too not because of one desire to possess a young body. To people really interestingly and comfortably with each other. If the girl prefers to a party in night club viewing the good movie if reading the book for it more valuable pastime, than daily shopping if she likes to listen to clever men, then it is quite logical that will pull it to professor from institute, but not to the age-mate DJ. The man in these relations will feel like Pygmalion, he will grow up to himself the ideal wife.
Not the last place in such relations will be taken also by external draft. At girls the image of the ideal man is always formed in the childhood therefore if then it namechtat to itself adult, big, strong and clever, then all others just will not get to the field of her sight. "Aga, Vovka good guy, but it too young". And girls earlier, than boys mature. He will always see her forever young, the embodiment of the dream female, young and fine.
In the household plan these relations will be more hardy too, than the marriage created by partners of one age. The adult man will have enough wisdom and a step so to point to mistakes and shortcomings to cause desire better to become for the sake of it, but not to argue and prove the case.
Each history – is unique. Desire to adjust all all alike – in a root wrong. The uneven-age marriages based on sincere and creative love – really exist, and moreover, now such the majority.