With what delight and grief you remember the beginning of your relations! Here photos of joint leisure, you together seem are very happy, on a neck a chain - a gift of darling for birthday. It seemed earlier what so will be always and konfetno - the buketny period will accompany all your life. 1-3 years of joint life later at many there comes the first crisis in the relations.
Why in the relations there comes crisis
Two different persons from different families, with different vital and family values sometimes cannot get used and adopt charters of another. If in family of the wife, for example, a commonplace are general embraces, kisses, then in family where the husband grew, it did not come for a framework of handshakes and wishes of kind morning or night. And the girl will surely decline the partner to caress, the same will perceive it as persistence.
When the period of love passes, feelings pale into insignificance, and then grinding in which is painful begins, it is frequent with scandals.
The child's birth can be one more cause of the conflicts in family. Apparently, and nothing except happiness the kid has to bring wildness in family. But sleepless nights, baby's cries and understanding of the man that he not main and favourite now, can give a good crack in the relations.
How to overcome the separate periods of crisis
The question of how to endure grinding in and to overcome in itself desire to live separately, faces the woman, first of all, weather in the house depends on her. She needs to act wisely. If in the house scandals concerning the shortage of finance, the broken case door for example, and the initiator - you are frequent, do not allow increase in a voice, dissatisfied tone, and try to speak about the requirements quietly.
As they say, water sharpens a stone and if you are quiet, and at the husband will become a habit to resolve with you issues quietly.
It is impossible to limit freedom each other Nuzhno at all to be respectful to hobbies of the husband, of course, if they do not do harm to your family (visits of night clubs with friends, inveterate fishings, games on money can be such). You should not hope and wait that somewhere in the world there is an ideal man and to measure under this comb of the. Try to weigh its shortcomings and advantages, to look narrowly at darling - not for nothing your choice fell on it. And do not forget to take a detached view of yourself. At each disagreement understand that the fault lies not with one family member, as a rule, both are good, only in percentage not always 50/50. Therefore to accept the misses and to work on mistakes - business nearly of all your life. It is similar to usual concessions. Of course, ladies want to be very weaker, and they by right consider that men are obliged to care for them and to contain. Alas, the system of patriarchy glitched long ago and gave gave the chance not to depend on the husband financially. And if still takes place to be self-education, your husband will be surely proud of you and will hardly allow reproaches and disrespect in return. Though, here too it is necessary to work properly, at first to learn to respect itself, and the others to be tightened out of doubt. The most important in the relations - communication and respect of each other. It is more than joy, laughter of a positive, patience can make of your family the strong back, and the house - in unapproachable fortress. And crisis will take place, it not the last, unfortunately. The laid foundation will be able to hold the attacks of the subsequent critical times of your matrimonial life now.