Family way at people is different. But it is always supposed that to know relatives and at least occasionally it is necessary to communicate with them. The mother-in-law is mother of the husband, so the close relative. The lack of communication will hardly positively affect the atmosphere in family.
Relationship of the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law – a question very painful for both parties. Everything is more or less smooth if families live separately. The less often it is necessary to see, the it is less than reasons for mutual discontent. In this case circumstances develop in such a way that communication can be minimized.
It is more difficult if the young family has to live in one apartment with parents. Or let in different, but in the neighbourhood. However, everything depends on character of both the mother-in-law, and the daughter-in-law.
What it is worth thinking of
Whether the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law cannot communicate at all? Probably, it is possible, though it is difficult to present it as it is about close relatives. There is other question. Whether it is necessary to bring a situation to such state when communication becomes absolutely impossible?
Emotions, especially negative, do not help with adoption of the correct decision. It is necessary to cool down, and then, having weighed everything properly, to try to find peaceful manners of resolution of conflict.
Usually neither that, nor other party bears the malice and works as it seems to it, is exclusive from the most good motives. This, perhaps, the first and main that it is necessary to take in attention. The quarrel open or implicit, but taking place, puts in awful position of the person equally expensive to both the daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law. You will not envy the man who appeared between the devil and the deep sea, he loves both: both wife, and mother. It is the next moment of which it is worth thinking.
That the general at the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law
And the general at these two, sometimes absolutely not similar at each other, women there is a lot of. And the first is a man whom they love of whose feelings it is worth thinking. If the young wife finds forces to ask the husband on what he appreciates in the mother, then she will gather the mass of useful information which will help to build up the kind relationship. Besides, the woman suddenly will see that she has those qualities which her husband appreciates in mother also.
It is no secret that people choose partners, relying on the available experience, and intuitively find to themselves the person similar to parents.
The following similarity of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that the first in turn was or still remains the daughter-in-law in relation to mother of her husband, and the second – the potential mother-in-law. In this regard the young woman, first, should ask the mother-in-law on her relations with her mother-in-law softly. This conversation can help the daughter-in-law to learn about what she did not know yet, to accept some things, new to itself. The conversation will be useful also to the mother-in-law as will help to rethink something, in any case, will set thinking why the relations with the daughter-in-law do not develop. The person is so suited that he hardly gets used to a role, new to it, and a lot of things begin to understand only when it appears in a certain situation. The young woman, having become the daughter-in-law, does not think that over time and she will become a mother-in-law. If she has a son, then it is inevitable. The child grows and sees how get on or his parents, grandmothers and grandfathers do not get on. And when will grow, most likely, will begin to build the relationship with people, in compliance with what he absorbed since the childhood. Really it is normal – to want your grown-up child to perceive quarrels between close people as norm? It is really obligatory to be at war with the son's darling who, of course, will be "any such"? There is a saying "A lean compromise is better than a fat lawsuit". However, it is better if the world is kind. To build up the relationship – quite hard work. But necessary.