Humiliations and insults from close, favourite people sound considerably more often than it was possible to expect. Sometimes offensive words sound at such moments when the person is happy and proud of himself.
When darlings humiliate you
Only the few loving couples managed to avoid negative situations in the relations. Problems can be different, but instead of understanding the reasons of inadequate behavior of the partner, there is a person breaks off the relations. This decision does not seem surprising if it is about constant humiliation from favourite people.
Everyday situations when you are offended by your soulmate will help to understand the reasons of such behavior.
If you the woman are also going with the man to the company on celebration of New year, a party and other. You turn in front of the mirror, trying on a new dress which on you fits very well. You turn to the darling behind approval and you hear phrases of this kind: "For such style you need to lose weight by three-four kilograms!" or "In such look you only in a kitchen garden to expose, frighten crows!" It is natural what after similar "praise" of mood somewhere to go is not present any more.
You very long and persistently implement the project (in any business). At last, you achieved result and want it to show to the expert or just to tell about itself to the whole world. But when you show work to the partner, he only skeptically shrugs shoulders and throws: "Do you think, this nonsense will be though to someone it is interesting?" Confidence in the forces and opportunities at once disappears and all enthusiasm evaporates. Such examples a huge number, but those who suffered indignity from darling learn the situation at once.
Why darlings humiliate you
The reasons of offensive behavior of close people are in situations. You are belittled intentionally at the moment of triumph, delight, joy because it is banal are jealous! And the most important at this moment to understand this simple truth and not to chop off to itself wings and not to take offense at "owner". But it is easy to advise it, and most often people, having suffered indignity, become demoralized and begin to look for the reason in themselves. It is not necessary to give in on mental messages of the partner: "Correctly, begin to cry, take off this devilishly sexual dress and put on something baggy!" or "You do not need to communicate with new successful people, suddenly you will meet among them the person of more worthy you, than I!" If you give up, to humiliations there will be no end. From this difficult situation there is an exit. Having once again heard a humiliating remark from the partner, you tell him something pleasant. For example: "Darling! I try only for you, to me it is important that you appreciated my efforts!" or "I know that you are jealous, but without mutual trust of the strong relations will not construct therefore let's behave as reasonable people!"