When you love, apparently, that together with this person you will live till an extreme old age nearby. But, unfortunately, not all dreams are fated to come true. People leave, and the husband loved once becomes former. But whether he will be foreign, foreign person or will remain the friend – depends on many reasons.
Whether to continue communication with the ex-husband or to completely delete it from life – each woman has to resolve this issue independently. First of all it depends on what feelings are caused in it by this person. They are very subjective, it is difficult to explain with their time to people around and whether it is necessary? After all, to solve family cases only to the husband and the wife even if they leave.
And still it is possible to track several typical situations in which it is worth continuing communication with the ex-spouse or, on the contrary, not to do it by no means.
Communication with the ex-husband to continue by the first and most good reason the general children are. Both parents are valuable to the child, he needs both the father, and mother. And to bring up him, to be responsible for his life, health and development the parents have to equally, is not dependent on that, they live together or separately.
Even if after the divorce it seems to spouses that they became absolutely strangers, they should resolve in common the issues connected with education, training, financial security of the child. And if they learn to do it quietly, efficiently, without quarrels and scandals – also they will win, and that the most important, their children. Happens and so that people leave, but continue to be on friendly terms. Yes, the family did not turn out, and the reasons for that can be as much as necessary. But the relation to each other at the ex-husband and the wife remains in general positive. Why then not to continue communication, not as spouses, but how friends or good acquaintances any more? The years lived together brought together two people why to tear this communication up to the end?
And still quite often, getting divorced, spouses do not wish to have more with each other nothing in common. Most often it happens in the following three situations. If the man left family, and the woman continues to love him and suffers from it, then it is better not to torment, probably, herself and to stop communication, at least for a while. You should not chafe a fresh wound and to live on reminiscence and regrets. The less in new life will be at the woman of occasions to remember the endured tragedy, the easier it will be able to restore forces and to live further. If the offense is strong, rage on the ex-husband, communication it is worth minimizing too, at least for that period until passions settle. Perhaps, having calmed down, spouses will be able to resolve more structurally the property, financial and other issues connected with a divorce. Even if judicial proceedings are necessary, it is better if it takes place in the quiet business atmosphere. And the most important reason to stop any relations with the ex-husband – if he made something like that that in consciousness of the woman is not compatible to image of the person. And let people around consider that this act it is possible to forgive, the behavior of the spouse can be justified. If internally the woman cannot make it – further communication with the ex-husband becomes for her impossible and even dangerous. It is capable to intrude upon her peace of mind, and in some cases can really pose threat for life and her wellbeing and children.